A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Im having a problem I hope someone can help me with.Im 15 still in school and I met this new girl in my school this year.She is very sexy and spanish,the only problem is she is my best friends cousin.My best friend is also mexican and he is very close to his cuz.Me and her have been flirting all year together but never started a relationship together.I dont know why but I feel so much better around her then any where else.Any ways theier family threw a mexican party thing(I forgot what they call them)over the weekend and their was a lot of people there.Me and her ended up having sex in the back seat of her best friends car by ourselfs.It was just a spur of the moment thing.She thinks she is in love with me and im thinking the same and it's not like this was my first time having sex but man she is amazing.I dont know how to break this to my best friens and his family,any ideas?
View related questions:
best friend, cousin, flirt Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): I don't think your cousin or his family would mind if you tell him that you're in love with his cousin-- however, you and the cousin should keep the fact that you had sex or may have more, to yourselves. Nobody needs to or wants to hear that.
As long as you treat her right-- very courteous, as if she were a lady you were hardly worthy to look at, nobody will get mad at you. However, if you don't treat her well, you're going to lose a friend. So step carefully and go slowly if you would like the relationship to continue.
Also, you sound young so practice safe sex-- with a condom!
A
male
reader, PeterPan +, writes (17 June 2008):
 The phrase "carefully" comes to mind... Seriously, I'd say that if this girl is a part of the family and you're very close now, why don't you ask her how you both should break it to the rest of the family. To me, it sounds like you're not Mexican and you're a little worried about how you would be accepted. I suppose that it would be better to find out sooner rather than later. Anyway, your new girlfriend might have a better idea of how the family would react. Ask her and get her reactions as well.
Meanwhile, start thinking about how to break it to your best friend. I hope that he's cool with it since you've been friends for a while. I am going to guess and assume that he should be fine -- it all depends on if he takes a protective stance for his cousin or not.
...............................
A
male
reader, Manximus  +, writes (17 June 2008):
 I think you really need to discuss this with your friend. Tell him that you really like this girl and ask how he would feel if you asked her out on a date.
He must think you are a decent guy if he is your friend, so be respectful and talk to him about it. There is no need to mention that you have already had sex. but just explain that you really like her and just want to treat her right.
M
...............................
|
