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writes:Hi Cupids.Just some background, I'm at university and I'm 20, female.I've always had a suspicion that I'm interested in girls and have had very brief encounters in the past but I have never explored due to my own self consciousness. I've had relationships with guys as well but i really want to explore my interest in girls as I've never been able to have a proper connection with a guy. However, I'm not that confident for obvious reasons having never explored this territory before. I'm scared of mistaking another girls interest for just friendliness and would never know how to approach someone, let alone whether to! I don't understand how girls find each other !Please don't be judgmental in your replies. I know my attitude is somewhat naive and yes, it will be. I'm just trying to explore my own sexuality and what will make me happy. Any advice will be greatly appreciated.
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reader, SmartiePants007  +, writes (7 January 2016):
Go to gay clubs and join online dating sites. If you see a girl who attracts you, make eye contact and smile. If she smiles back go up and talk to her. You have to just take a chance and don't let the fear of rejection stop you.
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (6 January 2016):
One of my best friends is gay, and she likes to go to gay bars and such.
Here's an overview of possibilities in the UK: http://www.travelgayeurope.com/destination/gay-united-kingdom/
It's a good place to meet people because you know the environment is positive and because there will be actual gay girls walking around, so the chance of hitting on someone who's straight is not very big there. I'd consider it a good starting point.
Also check if your university has anything running specifically geared towards the lgbt crowd. Quite a few uk universities have communities that offer support and host events and such. http://www.educationuk.org/global/articles/lgbt-uk/
Lastly, don't worry about being new to the territory. Heterosexuality has been presented to us as THE standard from the day we're born. No wonder it takes people a while to figure out their real sexuality.
Anyway, hope this helps and have fun!
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