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writes:Well, basically, I've been such good friends with this guy for ages and ages, and well I think I'm starting to really fall for him, so I got two questions really;- how do I know it's that I'm falling for him or if I just think of him as a good friend?- does it work if friends date?x Reply to this Question
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reader, Countrygirl96  +, writes (17 February 2013):
I'm going through the same thing. I have known Shawn for over a year now and we just started hanging out at the beginning of our 8th grade year and we are really close now and everyone says we should date or they think we are dating. I realized this last Friday I was falling for him. His grandpa lives down the road from me so when we get off the bus we walk around then stand at his road and talk. Well, on Friday we where out there and I went 2 shove him & he grabbed my arm when I did and we both fell & he goes atleast I tried 2 catch you and I'm like yeah you fell 2 very effective and I care about him and I know he cares about me because the way he acts but I don't know if he just cares about me like a best friend or he cares about me the way I care about him. I'm so confused I mean I could see us dating but I don't know how he feels about me.
So I know what your goin through and in your situation I wouldn't really tell him yet because he's dating your best friend and if you told him you could lose 2 best friends like that do you hav any advice on my situation?
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reader, ForeverN_Always +, writes (21 August 2009):
i know exactly what youre going through. ive known my best guy friend for about 2 years and im crazy about him, as much as i hate to admit. people always teased us but finally stopped after i insisted i didnt. now... :P he still doesnt know that i like him or anything. i dont think you should tell your best guy friend until it seems to you like he feels the same way. but thats just my opinion. i went out with one of my close guy friends, but we broke up. now were not even close... but who knows?! but, if it were up to me, id say not yet...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): Honestly, I really don't know. I'm in the same situation with one of my very good friends. I've really developed feelings for him over time but I dont think he likes me the same way. We're really good friends, everyone thinks we're dating, and we even call each other husband and wife as a little joke. I just dont think he sees me the way I see him and I'm afraid to tell him and make things awkward between us, but there's always a possibility. I guess you either take the chance or you don't.
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reader, shiraz * +, writes (14 February 2009):
hiyah, it all has to start with you both knowing where you stand and with that your true feelings... thats the hard part but you have the advantage of him being your friend so being honest and genuine comes natural to you with him.
you know when your falling for him when you have to ask the question!
it happens a lot now and things always progress to that bit more, some make a real go of it and have a happy furture with the one they truly love, others take the risk but loose not only the relstionship side but the friendship side too which hurts the most i think. if you both want it and feel with the support of each other you could make it work then make a go of it.
its not the situation where you have 'nothing to loose' though you have to remember that.
some things are worth going that bit more for, you only live once and all that, i say go for it, enjoy it have fun and be happy you could gain so much from taking that one risk. it can work if you want it enough.
best of luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2009): i had the same thing only just recently and it turned out i did like the guy and i eventually worked this out because wen i was with him I tried to talk wiv him and flirt and he made me feel really special, its like no matter how unhappy i was after spending just 2mins with this guy i was on top off the world. And yeah dating friends does work as long as you make it clear no matter what happens you'll always be friends.
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reader, mimisoph3 +, writes (14 February 2009):
 i honestly think that if u want a really good relationship it starts with friendship..and u guys already have that..so go ahead flirt a little give him signs u never know maybe his into u too
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