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writes:HiI was abused when i was younger, and for a while I was OK but nowadays its really been getting me down, I've been crying all night and stuff and I am scared to go to sleep sometimes because of the nightmares, though most of the time I don't really remember them very well. I was talking to a friend I know and trust and he thinks I might have depression and that I should go to a professional, but I don't know how - my parents know nothing about it and I don't want to tell them.Oh, by the way, I'm 13 and in yr8. I am really confused because I am sometimes so happy but sometimes all I can think about is what happened to me and it's wrecking my life.ThanksI don't know what to do.Hh xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): Talk to your school counsillor. Don't be worried that you don't know them very well. Anything you say to them will be in confidence, they won't let anyone know if you don't want them to and you don't have to mention the name of the person who did it.
Only say what you want to and make sure that you are comfortable.
Just tell them how you're feeling and about your nightmares maybe and then when you feel ready and comfortable you can tell them what happened to you.
It's immportant that you talk to someone as you are so stressed.
I was abused less than a year ago and have only recently been very sick because of all the stress I went through holding it in for the last six months without resolving the matter in my mind.
Good luck. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): I know how you feel.. I'm going through the same trouble.. i've had nightmares and nothing but for years, along with several other problems. Is it affecting your heart though.. my heart does this thing a few times a month where it just suddenly starts beating over 200 bpm, and i haven't done anything yet, but I'm completely healthy so ir really think it's from stress that i never confronted, or abuse that some part of me hasn't gotten over, but I try to move on anyway and simply not handle it. Things like that can start to happen to you. It's amazing how the human body works. stress affects waaay more than just your mood... You need find some help so that you can get rid of what's eating at yu before you start developing other problems. If you can't talk to your parents about it then go to someone at school or get a phone number off the internet of a professional who can help you.
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (10 April 2009):
 Do you have access to a phone, where you can talk privately? If you do, perhaps you can try this hotline Tel (helpline): 0800 1111 (24 hours everyday - calls are free and confidential) and ask for advice http://www.childline.org.uk/Pages/default.aspx
If you cannot get through the first time, or not satisfied with their answer, don't hesitate to call again at the next available opportunity.
They should be able to tell you on your next step, and that may include finding your support group in the area.
I wish you well, and my prayers are with you.
Cat
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): and, though the title says "I think" I know I was - he nearly raped me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009):
I don't know... how do you approach someone with this sort of problem? I don't know the school consellor very well, but she also takes the other group for games so I guess I could speak to her then, but I really don't want this to get out in the open, because I'm scared of what could happen to the person who did this to me (I was only 7) but he's not that much older than me, roughly 3-4 years, so what good would it do?
Thanks again
Hh xxxx
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reader, answeringmachine  +, writes (10 April 2009):
I think you should see someone professionally or even a school counselor if you wanted. I know that's a hard situation, I'm sorry you are having to deal with it. You can message any of us on here for more advice if you need it. I hope you can find the help you need :)
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