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anonymous
writes:I'm no longer happy with my girlfriend of fourteen months. I'm tired of her constantly being mad at me and guilt tripping me into giving her a deep apology that she doesn't deserve. Even after i apologize she remains mad at me for hours. The thing is, i don't even do anything wrong. She will blow everything out of proportion in order to pick a fight. Ranging from "who is this girl you added on facebook?" to "why didn't you call me back soon enough?". She knows i'm loyal to her and have a busy schedule, but she picks fights for what appears to be no reason. I think she just loves to hear me tell her how important she is to me on the phone every night. Anyways i think i should end the relationship, but it's going to absolutely kill me seeing her with another guy. What should i do? She's also the only person close to me right now. If i break up with her im going to end up extremely jealous and lonely.
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reader, RoseLovex  +, writes (17 August 2011):
 im a 16 year old girl, and the girl you described sounds exactly wat i am like with my bf, i only do it because i need to know he constantly feels the same for me.
the way to get her to stop is to just simply tell her every night i love you. and text her every morning saying morning beautiful. and i guarentee you she will stop and you will be able to have a great relationship.
just try what i suggested and if it doesnt work, try talking to her telling her that you do deeply care for her you always will but the arguments need to stop.
good luck and give me an upate to tell me how it wennt :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all of the responses! I took each of them into consideration, it appears to be time for me to end this.
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reader, msnewbeginning +, writes (16 August 2011):
 Being accused will encourage a person to cheat. If you are not happy and you have explained this to her then maybe you should leave. If you are a descent guy someone will soon come alone that deserves u. try avoiding her until u are comfortable with the thought of being alone, bc if not u may end up backtracking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2011): If the worst thing you fear is jealousy, then yes, you should break up with her.
In a way, your jealousy is very telling...it means you don't want to be with her so much as you want to be the man who has her. Is she very pretty? Popular? Do you get a rise out of dating a girl with these qualities?
The fact that you'd stay in a crappy relationship to avoid jealousy suggests that your relationship has a lot to do with your ego and not so much her.
From the way you describe her, she sounds a bit immature. But, wouldn't it be just as immature to miss her only because someone else has her? I think you'd grow as a person if you left her and find someone who you got more out of.
I'm a woman...and if I didn't really trust that a guy ared for me, I'd leave him, I wouldn't hassle him about proving it. But, if I was "no longer happy" with a partner, I'd leave them too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2011): The most difficult thing you can do is break up with someone. It wont be the last time. But, you must have the courage to do it and prepare for those emotions. The fear of being lonely is very intense but is not enough to rationalize being miserable. Insecurities from a woman will ruin a relationship and not get better. If she is the type that will want you to know she's with someone else and desires that you're miserable then your question is answered. The problems you see now wont get better if you take the relationship to the next step. If you do split. Keep busy, keep busy. My time spent in between girlfriends has been my most productive and life altering. Even though painful.
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