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writes:Why is it that some men prefer not to go down on a woman? Should I interpret this as a sign he doesn't love me or just let it go and enjoy the rest of the "act"?And the other way around: how many of the men actually expect having oral sex performed on them by their partner? What significance do they attribute to it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2011): I enjoy doing whatever it takes to get her to orgasm.
Being a selfish lover is simply unacceptable.
I guess that is why, after many years, my wife still likes to have sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2011): I'm yet another guy that actually enjoys giving oral more than receiving. I realize that a majority of women require direct clitoral stimulation to achieve an orgasm, and I really enjoy pleasing them that way. Conversely, while I do enjoy receiving oral sex in return, I have a difficult time climaxing from it. So I'm perfectly fine with only receiving it every now and then as a "treat".
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reader, N91  +, writes (16 August 2011):
 I agree with quantum, I prefer giving than receiving. Its a lot more of a turn on for me seeing the girl getting off!
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reader, Odds  +, writes (16 August 2011):
 I don't enjoy it for the act itself, but I enjoy seeing her happy, and I consider it fair play - so I go into it with enthusiasm. If your man doesn't enjoy it, it does not mean he doesn't love you, it just means he doesn't like going down on you.
Before getting mad at the man who isn't enjoying going down on you, make sure you've done your best to take care of the smell. Not accusing you of anything, just saying some people are just unaware of their own odors, and he may think it's more polite to just refuse oral than to say anything about an odor. If everything's in order down there, then you may want to politely but firmly ask for more consideration in bed.
As for receiving oral, it's something I consider a condition for a relationship. It feels amazing, and shows she has the same devotion to my pleasure that I have to hers. If a girl doesn't want to give head, I won't think any less of her, nor will I put any pressure on her to do it - I just won't date her, and I'll wish her the best of luck with her own love life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2011): Girl, I don't even date men, much less seriously, if they don't dine on southern cuisine. :) Why "enjoy the rest of the act" and not everything? I'm sorry but if a man is not interested in giving you oral sex, even though he is receiving it, he is selfish. Selfish lovers are not good in the sack. Drop this dud and find yourself a good man and a selfless lover.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2011): I love doing it to my girlfriend! She used to be insecure about her body but one day she did it to me, and It blew me away. She said she liked giving me oral. I believe in giving if you want, and I definitely wanted to go down on her. At first, she felt really insecure but after a few minutes she was grabbing my head and thrusting.. (;
Seriously it comes down to who you are with. My girlfriend and I are so giving we like doing it to each other more because we like to see each other squirm in pleasure. I never expected it from my girlfriend, at first. She was very feminist and I thought she would think its degrading... but when I saw her ask me to do it to me..
Ask him why. Maybe he is scared it will taste bad. Don't worry my gf was scared of her smelling, but to me.. it smells good and it tastes pretty good too. If he actually tried, he might like it. He could still love you. He should never expect you to go down unless he does the same for you. I believe in Super equality in the sexes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2011): I enjoy it. Sometimes Though things arent so fresh down there and its difficult for me to enjoy. Usually after she gets out of the shower ill plop her on the edge of the bed and go down. As far as her going down. Nothing is better! It especially helps a situation if i wasnt totally up for sex and she is. That puts the mood on ten fold.
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