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male
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26-29,
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writes:I have no idea what to do with this girl. We'll call her Jane. I met her through one of my friends and we dated freshman year of highschool, it wasn't a very long relationship, we broke up because we could never see each other (going to different schools and both having divorced parents made it hard) but I'd always had a crush on her before we dated anyways. We started talking again months after we had broken up and the feelings I had for her never really went away. I told her how I felt and she told me to call her and talk about it. I had just broken my phone that day and we never got around to talking about it. I ended up dating another girl for almost 2 years, but Jane was always in the back of my mind even though I talked to her twice while I was in this relationship, I just couldn't forget her. She's beautiful and kind, she's such a positive person and she really seems to get me. After I had broken up with this other girl I talked to Jane about it and she really helped me through it and seemed to enjoy texting to me again! She had a boyfriend at the time (and still does) and we just kind of stopped texting randomly, I think she might've found out how I still feel about her although I never told her. This stopped about a month ago. So we're both seniors in highschool and she's been dating this guy for almost a year, and I'm afraid her relationship might be too serious for me to change anything. Did I miss my chance?
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (1 October 2012):
 I think you have missed your chance I'm afraid, she's been with him almost a year now so they must be pretty serious. You have to respect that she is in a relationship now and you dont want to be the kind of guy who goes around stealing other guy's girlfriends, so you are going to have to let it go for now I'm afraid.
You never know what the future holds, look at you and your 2 year relationship - that was a serious long term relationship but that ended, so perhaps even though Jane's relationship is serious now it might not last forever. All you can do is remain friends with her, and wait and see what happens. You cant do anything now, you have to wait until she is single again.
I know that's not a great option, so if you dont want to wait you are going to have to write Jane off completely and move on for good. But you are both still very young and relationships at your age dont tend to last anyway, so chances are Jane will be single again one day. Keep her as a friend, and if she does become single again make sure you take your chance next time.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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