A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I just need some help on what to do with my current situation. You see, there is this girl that's somewhat friends with my sister. I really like if not love her, however I've only met her once. Also, I'm a fifteen year old boy and she's a twenty year old girl. Now I know what you're thinking right now: oh, you just want her for sex. Wrong. Even though I've met her only once, I really enjoy how she looks and acts. Also, ever since I met her I can't stop thinking about her. All thourghout my day she's constantly on my mind, no matter what I'm doing. Oh yes, and I've told my sister and some of my friends how I feel, and they think I'm a psycho for thinking this about an older person than me and they said she was too old. But, like I said, I don't just want to have a relationship based on sex, I want to love her. So, My overall main question is this: should I go for her and see what happens or should I just let it go? Whatever you think, tell me why or why not in great detail please. Thank you. Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, jay12toes +, writes (19 February 2009):
 well if you like her then you need to start hanging out with her, you have to build a relationship, you cant just expect things to turn out if youv only met her once. but i have to say that unless shes in to younger guys then things wont be in your favor.
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): There nothing wrong with how you are feeling.
But remember, just because you feel a certain way, it doesn't mean this girl has to feel the same back. And at her age, she probably won't.
I'm not saying it can;t work out, because it can. But the odds here are against you for now.
When you are 18 and she 23, it won't seem like such a big deal. Because you will both be adults and both understand pretty much the same things about the world.
You will be beyond test scores and starting work. Dealing with the same things she is. You will have far more in common then you have now.
Even then it's no guarantee to a relationship or anything similar.
If it is really doing your head in you need to sit her dow and tell her you are feeling romantica feelings for her and don't know how to best deal with them. Then say that you felt she had a right to know, even if she doesn't now or never will return said feelings.
This way she does not feel pressured in any way.
Flynn 24
...............................
|
