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age
30-35,
*exxiylove
writes:Hello all :) I'm sorta of having a problem. Here we go; I have a boyfriend who is such a great boy. He's lovely and is always there for me. I don't think i could ask for anyone else better. But see, that's just it. Last week i went to a party and hang out with this friend who I've known for a bit. We had a great time. We smiled, laughed, hugged, and kissed. I know I'm wrong for that because i have a boyfriend. But i feel like this kid makes me so much happier. But the next morning he was very iffy to me, and acted as if nothing ever happened. I thought ehh about it. but the next night, we all hung out again, partied mostly. The next morning same awkwardness. I thought maybe he didn't like me and he was just drinking (i was sober). We kept talking and things just got even more awkward. but he claims it's all his past and he has had a rough time with other people. So i've let him go a bit and just stayed about, but he keeps going, so i get closer and closer to him. But then he just lets me down. I believe it was a "stuck in the moment" thing. but see i haven't stay the night with anyone in five whole years and those two nights i stayed with him, and no one, and i mean no one could have ever made me over come something like that. I have been to therapy for it for those five years and no one but him helped me, and i find that so deep and unbelievable. i guess what i need to know is if i should carry on with him and just deal with him, or forgive him and move on?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 April 2011):
Dump your boyfriend, at the very least. You and this other guy are mocking him, and he doesn't deserve it.
As for the other guy, well you can continue trying, but you'll just fail with him because he's not really bothered, and I think is rather enjoying the fact that you're all over him.
You need to be alone, and you need to appreciate what true love is when you're ready for it. You're not ready at all, and it's best you have your fun now.
Just please don't continue to treat a good guy badly, because there aren't many around and when it's discovered you're a cheat, you'll be lucky if you ever get a good guy again. That reputation follows you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): You've got a BF that treats you well. But you're more interested in a boy that blows hot and cold and gives you an emotional rollercoaster ride. It's not an unusual situation. It's also a predictable situation. Your BF will continue to treat you well and this other guy will continue to blow hot and cold. You will continue to love the attention from the other guy because he's more of a challenge, even thought he will be doing nothing more to earn it than just treating you worse half the time than your BF. So there you have it. Either you would rather be treated well all the time, or you would rather be treated well only part of the time. Your choice.
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