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writes:Hey guys, i've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, i honestly beleive he's my soulmate. Totally crazy about eachother, he's the man i want to marry and have children with. Thing is, i've only ever slept with one person, him. And he slept with two other women before we got together. It doesn't bother me, but i feel like i need to get a few flings out of my system. But i'd never cheat on him, and i couldn't bare to be apart from him. I dont know what to do, is it just me who's like this? Help!! X
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys, you're all right. I know for a fact he is the man i want to spend the rest of my life with, shandy88 you're spot on. I dont really WANT to sleep with anyone else, it's just the thought of one person, but reading all your answers made me realize he's the one person i want to sleep with, and only him. Thank you so much for helping me before i did something i'd regret for the rest of my life!! Xxx
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 May 2010):
 The grass is not greener on the other side and you are not missing out on anything. But thats hard for you to know since you haven't experiened how little it matters. The number of sexual partners you've had matter none at all. What matters in relationships that get serious is your life experience, not sexual experience and number of partners. If you are mature about it you will see that nothing can be gained from you having flings or sex with more people. It's just sex with yet another person and in the big picture has absolutely no relevance.
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reader, shandy88 +, writes (19 May 2010):
Hi, I have been with my boyfriend since i was 16, am nearly 22 now so just shy of 6 years. I have only ever slept with him, he's the only one that i've really done anything with and i am the only person he has slept with too. I truly believe he will be the man i marry and it has never even crossed my mind that he will be the only person i ever sleep with. i dont think you are too young to know that he is your soul mate but you really should take it as it comes and not be too serious about it. I really dont think you even want to sleep with anybody else do you, you just think that its not 'normal' for you to only be with one person. But if that one person is the right one there is no need to find any others is there.
Just be happy hun and live life as it comes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2010): i get the feeling that you feel that you hav to sleep with more people just because he has. you dont have to do this. it's not a competition, and like others have said, if you really think he is the one, you wouldnt want to sleep with other people.
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (19 May 2010):
 If he truly was your soulmate you wouldn't "feel like you need to get a few flings out of your system". A soulmate is someone who you want MORE than anybody else in this world and you are happy with, unconditionally.
This does not sound like you. You are young, you don't have pressure yourself into making a decision on who you are going to spend the rest of your life with today. Obviously you have desires other than your boyfriend. Slow things down and think about your future before doing anything too hasty.... either way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2010): I think that's lovely that you have never given yourself to anyone else in the same way. Why waste it on others? Just be happy that you didn't have to go through a load of frogs before you found your prince!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (19 May 2010):
If he's the one, then you won't need to sleep with anyone else. If you feel that you want to sleep around, then he's not the one and you should end it with him and have your fun. There will be time to meet another guy. There will not be time to have another life. If he's the one, it will work out and you won't need to get anything out of your system.
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reader, Cherry_Blossom99 +, writes (19 May 2010):
 Hi, It's very natural for you to feel like this however I think if you honestly feel this strongly about him...there shouldn't be the need for you to feel you have missed out and need to try other men. If he is the one for you then he should be more than enough for you. x
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