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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:In June of this year, I met a man on craigslist. I answered his ad, and now I am kicking myself. This person claims to live in another state, but posted in ad in the city where I live, hoping that the woman he found would eventually move to where he lives. From day 1, this guy only wanted to text. There was one time, on the second day of our convos that he asked if we could talk on the phone, but when I called he never picked up, and he never called me. After about 2-3, of asking him to call me, instead of texting me, I become angry and demanded that he call me. I even went online to trace his cell phone number and it came up as belonging to someone else. I asked this guy about this and he blew me off. I asked if he were married and he said no. It has been 2 months, and I have had 2 conversations with this guy, and they lasted only 5 minutes. From the beginning, he told me that his mother was dying, and sent me a pic of him standing next to her in a hospital bed. He is never available after about 5 in the afternoon, and only wanted to text. One day, out of the blue, I had trouble getting my calls to go through to his cell, and emailed him instead. He tells me that he turned in his cell phone to the carrier, and got a new number, which he gave to me. But, the old number still rings and goes to voicemail It gets worse.This guy started talking about marrying me, having a baby with me, buying a house with me, after 2 week of texting! His craiglist ad stated that he can and will take care of someone. Two weeks ago, I texted him because he disappeared. He texted me back saying that his mom was hours or days from death. I haven't heard from him since. I have sent online prayer cards, texts, and left phone messages, but he turned off his cell phone. What would you do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2011): I appreciate all of the great replies to my issue. I have decided not to contact this guy anymore, either via text or email, althought I'm thinking about sending him an email to let him know that I know he's a fraud. It just makes me feel better doing this.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (16 August 2011):
 very very evasive behaviour. he is probably married or living with someone and he either texts you when he is in work or he texts you before his wife gets home from work (that's why you never hear from him after 5pm) texts can be tapped out as they sit next to their wife, a phone call to you would be *slightly* more obvious and hence - more difficult to explain to his missus.
the super fast marriage/house/baby proposal is another red flag and it shows he is falsely trying to create the hope in your mind that you will have a future with him. he is sure that this will cause you to therefore fall in love with him so you will be very pliable when he asks for favours, money, sex and that as you have fallen for him you will be less alert to your own internal warning bells and will make excuses and allowances for him
he's not worth you time or phone credit. please leave him alone, you can't be THAT desperate for a man, surely?? this one sounds like bad news
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (16 August 2011):
 Do I need to hand you a pair of running shoes?
WHY do you keep talking to this man????
RUN GIRL!!! RUN LIKE A TOKOYO CITIZEN FLEEING GODZILLA
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2011): How you can trust someone like that? It could be even dangerous, how do you know it is safe to follow him? Be more careful, I know some tragic things have happened through craigslist.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 August 2011):
 Sounds married to me since he's not available after 5...
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (16 August 2011):
 Why keep pursuing a lost cause?
If he can't call after 5 - he's married. If he keeps changing phones - he's shady. Liar? He hasn't told the truth so far - so why would you trust him to in the future.
There are better places to meet a guy! Try a reputable online dating site that you pay for instead, like e-harmony. They actually do try to weed out the scam artists.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2011): I'm really sorry but this guy does sound like a complete liar, who is looking to scam you or at least, appears to have something to hide. I would stop contacting him, block him from ever contacting you, and try again with someone else. You barely no this man, cut your losses and keep yourself safe.
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