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I think I could have counselled him better

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Question - (4 February 2011) 3 Answers - (Newest, 28 February 2011)
A male United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hi all,

Ok, I work in education (not a teacher) anyway, one of the students was being

teased by his classmates and I pulled him to one side and said to him "do they always tease you, do you want me to do something about it?" he replied

with "well... at least they don't tease me because I am gay" to which I replied with "are you gay?" he replied with "No", it looked and sounded to me that he had just accidently outed himself or was worried about my reaction.

Truth is I only asked him a second time because I am gay myself and was thinking about saying, "so am I, if you want to talk... blah" but I don't

think it is appropriate to talk about personal things being a member of staff in a educational environment. In the end I told him he was too young to know

what he was on account that hes only just 16 and I told him it doesn't matter what you are as long as your happy.

I think I could have handled that one better, what does everyone think?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2011):

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UPDATE..

Well he was awkward with me for a week and then returned to normal. Nothings been said since and if he wants to talk then thats fine too. Alls well I guess.

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A male reader, crazybeast United Kingdom +, writes (5 February 2011):

crazybeast agony auntAll in all I thought you handled that pretty well, it does sound like he outed himself then but I wouldnt get to involved if I was you, I know that if one of my tutors or one of the members of staff came out to me I would feel awkward.

If he does deside to aproach you obviously you could tell him that you are there to talk to (I'm taking it as you are a counselor?) So you wouldnt have to get in to detail about your own personal life.

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A male reader, Jmtmj Australia +, writes (5 February 2011):

Jmtmj agony auntThere's a line between how much of your personal life you should expose to school life. I think you handled it well.

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