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writes:About 2 years ago i met this guy through mutual friends and he immediately showed an interest in me and started messaging me, having got my number from one of my friends. I wasnt interested whatsoever as i was at a stage of my life where i didnt feel the need for a boyfriend and spent all my time with friends. He made no secret in his feelings for me and remained undeterred in my lack of interest in him. He then found out that i was getting with someone else and then started going out with one of my friends. Their relationship lasted a matter of weeks and shortly after they broke up he started to message me again. We danced at a party a couple of weeks later and the next day i finally relented to his numerous attempts of getting me to see him and caught up with him. We ended up getting together a couple of weeks later and for the next couple of months we would hook up on weekends but i would only see him during the week if i wanted something. He told everyone about me and many people thought we were already together although i didnt see that we had anything going on at all. It was only after one party where he asked me out and i rejected him and i ended up getting really drunk and he looked after me the entire night even after i had turned him down, that i started to have genuine feelings for him. From then on we started seeing each other properly and eventually were an offical couple after over 6 months of him chasing me. I ended up falling in love with him and had a year long relationship with him. We spent a lot of time together and he always told me how much i meant to him. I always knew that before we were together he had an ex girlfriend who he was with for 3 years. they were very young when they were together and it was a highschool relationship. His family and himself told me horror stories of their relationship including her physically attacking him because he wanted to go somewhere without him. She was very controlling and wouldnt let him see his friends or do anything without her being there with him. She cheated on him on a few occasions and they broke up almost every week and got back together until eventually it ended. We were going fine in our relationship and had just celebrated my birthday and our 1 year anniversary when he finally opened up to me about his parents recent divorce and told me how much i meant to him and how he never wanted to lose me. A mere one week later he broke up with me suddenly and we were on and off for about 3 months not ever offically getting back together but going in a cycle of seeing each other for a week then he would start a fight with me over nothing and then we wouldnt speak for a week and then the cycle would start all over again. One night his ex girlfriend approached me and i hanged out with her for that night. I enjoyed talking to her as she had gone through the same thing as i had with my ex boyfriend. After that night he refused to speak to me anymore or even be in the same room as me if we were around mutual friends. I tried on many occasions to talk to him but he blatantly ignored me. Another 3 months down the track of not talking and i hear stories that him and his psycho ex girlfriend were seeing each other again. I asked his ex girlfriend and she assured me that they were just talking again after everything. I then recieve an array of abusive messages from him saying that if they were to get back together that she would only be taking back what was hers and that i never meant nearly as much as what she did as they were together longer and had much more history than we ever did. The messages didnt sound like him and i assume that she wrote them off his phone. We have not spoken since and i still hear rumours that they are seeing each other. I just cant believe he is back with her after everything he had said about their previous relationship and how he could send those messages to me, acting like i never meant anything to him. i just dont know what to think anymore and i wonder if anyone reading this thinks that his relationship with his ex will really last?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2010): thanks for thr answers :) if it changes anything himself & his ex didn't talk for 3 years as their breakup was so bad that she reported him for reckless driving & he nearly lost his license because of her.he was an excellent boyfriend when we were together & loved how I wasn't controlling like she was.he also I think stopped talking to me cos he found out I had hooked up with an ex flame which he wasn't very happy about but yeah.
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reader, sunandstars  +, writes (17 December 2010):
It doesn't sound like his relationship with his ex girlfriend because he doesn't sound like a nice person to be honest. Chances are he's the same with everyone so it will be an on off relationship. Hope this answers your question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2010): Whatever has gone off, if he is with her I would leave well alone. You could be going on forever trying to get to the bottom of it all. It sounds like he got involved with you before he was over his marriage.
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