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female
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36-40,
*reeangel
writes:I'm so confused about how I feel about someone. I was dating him a while ago, and it was going so well. Felt such a connection and he payed me so much attention I felt on top of the world :o) . We started to get really close... Then, things got kinda confusing about a month in and I don't even know what words to use to describe what happened... (he wasn't sure on commitment and he had family issues at the time that I found out about through a mutual friend ) We stopped talking to each other after having a long chat and him staying round after 2 weeks apart. Now when we see each other out it feels a bit strange and I hate that. He says things to me and holds my hand and looks at me and stays with his friends but still near to where he can see me... Things like that makes me think he misses me but then does the opposite and then ignores me and walks off when I try to talk to him alone sometimes. I tried getting back in touch with him after we last bumped into each other and we were txing again but then he stopped. I feel so numb about it all. I told myself last week that that I was guna move on and forget it but after I met a guy out and kissed him I went home and burst into tears and all I could think about was this other guy. I'm fine most of the time but then when I'm alone I miss him so much and feel lost about how I feel or should feel. I miss everything about him. We never really spoke about it or ended our relationship properly... and then he kinda started playing with my emotions a bit. I don't know if I still need closure? But when I go to tx or ring him something stops me and I leave it. It's been a couple weeks since it all went quiet and a mutual friend said he was having family issues at the time it all seemed to start fizzling out. I don't know if I just have false hope and that maybe he isn't bothered any more or if he is missing me too and thinks about me? He isn't one to talk that much about how he feels and I wish I could help him if he is having a hard time. I care for him so much. I know we will see each other and speak soon but we will probably be out drinking and that way we never really seem to resolve anything. I feel so weird about it. But I know if we could put everything behind us and we both wanted to see each other again that it could be so good again. I had such a good feeling about him when we were together and I really thought it would last and it may sound odd but I still feel, or know, that we'll be together in some way again.... Just duno what move to make. I've been thinking he'd come back eventually if he wants me, but on the same note, I can't wait forever. I feel like something's guna happen soon and I don't know what it will be. I just hope it will be good that's all! Any advice please?! :o)
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 Decide what you really want. If you really want this guy, then tell him that and do your best to give it another go. If you're unsure, that's a good sign that maybe this isn't the relationship for you. That doesn't mean you're ready to date other people, but a relationship with him might not work out for you. Having to find out what's going on in his life from others isn't a good sign in my eyes. It's actually a red flag.
How much time do you want to give him? What do you really want? Can he give you what you're looking for?
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