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anonymous
writes:My new love affair has been keeping me excited but I feel it's causing too much stress. I had fun with this guy. We were in a same class 2 years ago but we started talking again a day before valentine's day. As soon as he started talking to me, I immediately knew he was interested in me. I was also excited that he planned to hit on me.Things worked out pretty well, since April, we've seen each other a couple times every week. He is nice to me. He has cooked for me and when he was looking at me, I felt there was almost too much passion in his eyes.I think I am in love with him. I would voluntarily hug him when he was cooking, or kiss his hand when we were watching movies.I always get mad at him because he never told me he liked me or asked me to be his gf. And knowing I was mad, he never said any lovely things to comfort me.My friends all said I was almost playing him because I have been sending him mixed signals all the time. ie. I always asked him "we are not dating right?" hoping he would tell me "yes, we were dating. I like you." That never happened.My friends kept telling me that it was so obvious that he liked me otherwise nobody would have wanted to spend so much time with me, given I was not giving him sex. Therefore he didn't have to tell me he liked me. They also told me I should relax and stop over analyzing things.My idea relationship is two people remain friends and only start getting physical after they become bf/gf. So far I have let him kissing me and cuddling with me. I already gave in so much because i like him but he hasn't told me he liked me or wanted me to be his gf so i am freaking out. I was insecure to a point that I could not take it any more so I told myself he was playing me and cut him off.But ever since my friends told me he liked me, I had more hope. Today I saw him when I was in lecture. He looked into my classroom and smiled to me. I thought we were mad at each other so I cut him off, but it seemed he didn't know I was mad at him.I am so hopeless in love and I don't know what to do.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (14 April 2009):
 well then you just do whatever you feel is right hun.if you want to stick with this guy then you do that but i mean guys can be quite silly at times and do need to be told that you like them otherwise they just don't know.they need it to be spelled out don't be silly you won't seem like an old woman trying to push him into marriage you just need to know where you stand that's all.perhaps let him know that other guys are interested in you and see what happens because if he shows no interest i suggest you move on with one of these guys but if he seems edgy then you need to work with it get him to tell you how he REALLY feels.girls don't like guessing games.it's annoying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanksI am a very proud person and so is he. I don't want to directly tell him that I like him and want to be his gf sometime in the future because that way I feel I am like a desperate old woman trying to push him into a marriage.Yesterday another guy told me he liked me and he wanted me to give him a chance. I immediately knew this won't happen because I was already so in love with the first guy. And I can tell there is another guy who plans to ask me out this Friday but I am not even consider him.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (14 April 2009):
your friends are right he clearly does like you but feels he doesn't need to tell you because he's a guy not all guys like to show there feelings.perhaps if you just sat and talked to him tell him how you felt and that you would like him to express his feelings a bit more towards you im sure he'll understand.you should stop being so paranoid though and just enjoy the time you have with him i understand it'll be stressful for you because you don't know where you stand with him but if you really want to know i think you guys should just sit with eachother and have a good long talk and discuss the situation.hope this helps :)
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