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male
age
36-40,
*lasher
writes:Well...I landed a new job just a month ago and I am already having problems [go figure]. I am not really sure where I stand at this point, but I definitely like men [this was made clear on my last job]. Before I start...let me just say that I have a good judge of character. I know whether I am going to like you, have problems with you, if you are annoying, etc. just by looking at you. Don't get me wrong, I give people the chance to prove me wrong...But I am usually right. I also have a "talent" for "knowing" who is gay and who isn't. On my first day...the first time I met him...I knew that there was something more to him than meets the eye.You could split this man in half and distribute his beauty to each halves equally and would still be handsome. Anyway...I inadvertently gave provided him clues that I like him. 1. He caught me checking him out while he was getting out of his car. He just ignored me [I stayed in my car] but he looked back at me before he entered the building].2. I turned RED when he looked at me with those handsome guy eyes of his when I ran into him in the hallway that one time.I don't really know what his deal is. I think he is gay but my radar could be off. The first time this happened to me, I handled it recklessly [I was too aggressive]. First I wanted to get with him...but if he really liked me then he would've made some effort. Sometimes I think he is checking me out but I'm not sure! I don't want to risk my career over something like this. So I think I'm going to leave it alone...but the problem is...HOW? I SEE HIM EVERYDAY! Any ideas on how to get passed this? I don't want to be rude to him...he's a nice guy.PSI think he's in his late thirties.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (16 December 2007):
 There's an old saying, I'll try to put it in polite terms. "Don't make waste products where you intend on eating.". It means, "Don't mix business with pleasure" or "Don't have a daliance where you intend to make your Living". Look for a sexual partner elsewhere, especially if you are already having problems. If you should pursue this, and it goes wrong, who do you think will lose their job over it? Last in, first out. Better to ignore the obvious flirtations and look outside the firm.
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (16 December 2007):
 Just get your head down and concentrate on your career. You wouldn't want to throw it away on an office fling. Just remind yourself that whenyou see him, go out of your way to stay out of his way until you think you are over your crush.
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