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writes:Dear Cupid, im a 19yr old female and i just need some general advise really on my thoughts and feelings - well ive been with my b/f now for a month (we dated for a year but then broke up, now were together again) well i think about having sex with him nearly all the time but when im actually with him i don't want it. I love kissing and cuddling and even exploring each others bodies im just not interested in penetration or bj. Do you think this is because im simply not ready or because im just not interested in him that way? Also he was in a motorbike accident last week and is in a critical condition in hospital - and im confused about how im feeling, i can't see myself with anyone else and right now i don't want to be but i can't understand why i don't want to be intimate with him.Any views on this would be great!Thank you xoxoxoxP.s when we went out the first time round we did sleep together.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (25 July 2007):
 Well sweetie I feel you aren't really in love with him but rather in love with the idea of love. That's why you can have fantasies of having sex with him but when he's there face to face you really don't want to have sex. Perhaps like you say you just aren't ready but since you've had sex before I think that is unlikely. I simply feel you haven't found the right guy yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHay - thanks for your responce although if im honest its not really want I want to hear!
When we broke up it was about 20 months ago. In that time i did sleep with other people and it was the same with all of them - i never really seemed interested in the sex so im thinking because of that i might just not be ready. There was also this occasion when I might have been date raped (not 100% sure though) and im not sure if thats freaked me out subconsciencely or not. Could you please go into further detail about why your thinking I don't like him PLZ.
Like i said b4 hes currently cretically ill in hospital and I can't even consider being with anyone else. Also i generally don't find men sexually attactive apart from my b/f.
Also - the sex wasn't amazing the first time round but i think that was becuase neither of us had any real experience and didn't really know what we were doing!
Plz help im so confused!!!
xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHay - thanks for your responce although if im honest its not really want I want to hear!
When we broke up it was about 20 months ago. In that time i did sleep with other people and it was the same with all of them - i never really seemed interested in the sex so im thinking because of that i might just not be ready. There was also this occasion when I might have been date raped (not 100% sure though) and im not sure if thats freaked me out subconsciencely or not. Could you please go into further detail about why your thinking I don't like him PLZ.
Like i said b4 hes currently cretically ill in hospital and I can't even consider being with anyone else. Also i generally don't find men sexually attactive apart from my b/f.
Plz help im so confused!!!
xoxo
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 July 2007):
I agree, you just aren't into him as much as you think. Was the sex lousy the first time you guys were together?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (24 July 2007):
 I think you don't really like this guy, and that explains everything.
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