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writes: Hi, I'm a 15 year old female. I'm really confused about my sexuality. One minute im having sexual thoughts about girls then the next it's boys. I've never had a girlfriend, only boys; does this mean im a bisexual?? Please help me!!
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reader, Confused01  +, writes (27 October 2008):
I really do not know what my sexual orientation is. I mean, i thought i was straight, then i thought that i was bi-curious, but im not sure. when im online, and i meet new people, i prefer girls and they have to look attractive. but i date guys. ive never thought about dating a girl, it didnt seem right. but then i read this book called 'Keeping You a Secret' it was about a girl who finds out shes a lesbian, and she has to keep a relationship with this girl tht she fell in love with a secret. it was a good book and it got me thinking again. i thought tht it would be cool to have a girlfriend, but i like boyfriends. so im thinking im on the verge of becoming bi. im not sure. i wouldnt mind dating a guy or girl. its just if i am bi, im afraid of what others will think of me, i mean coming out will be difficult i think, and im not sure how to find others who are bi if i am. help me please!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): I've read the previous answers and find them interesting. Mainly because I was around the age of 14 when I had mixed emotions/feelings as well. I consider myself bisexual even though I'm married to a man. I've never stopped thinking about women, especially the ones I've been involved with and find some so very sexy. What's not to like. Us women are soft, sensual, sexy and beautiful. Not to mention we can understand each other in a way a man can't even come close. Or at least any of them I've been involved with. You are perfectly normal and I consider us some of the few. It's the ones that don't and won't admit to their sexual preference if it's other than heterosexual.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): hey im 14 female also and i have the same thoughts for my friend and my friend is bi also i sometimes wouderd if she liked me aswell
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): Hi! I'm a 17 year old female who a few years back when I was a little younger than you wondered the same thing. You could be bisexual it is very possible, but you could also be what people call pansexual (not as widely known) which is similar to bisexual but not the same. Pansexual means you can see yourself dating a person who is transgendered, asexual, or something similar to this. My suggestion is to join your schools GSA (Gay Straight Alliance) or if your school doesn't have one, start one! I will be more than happy to help answer your questions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2008): I have strong confidence that I'm straight, but I have gotten off to nude men pics. i don't like penises, anal, or that wierd nasty stuff. just their muscles. Am I gay?
PLEASE BE NO!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): I'm feeling the same way I have kissed both girls and boys. You have nothing to worry about after all it is your choice. There is nothing wrong with being bisexual if you're worried about that. These feelings are normal so don't worry about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2007): Hi - I am 16, female and bisexual - I was very confused about my sexuality but now have accepted it - there is nothing wrong with you. I have now had sex with one boy and 2 girls and I think until you have gone 'all the way' you won't know for sure
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2007): I am almost 17 and a girl. i've had a couple girlfriends, and about 7 boyfriends. think about it, if you've got a close relationship with your mom/ dad talk to them about it. make sure you know what you're doing, it's not going to make you a bad person to not know! if you expirament that's okay too, just make sure it's what you want. i've like both since i was in about ninth grade, it's not a that bad not to know, if you need to talk, my email is: [deleted](mod note: please do not post emails. We have a member registration system and an internal mail system. Sign up, and people can contact you through that. Thanks.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): well first off i want to let you know this is ok. And there is a good chance you may be bi-sexual. Could you see yourself with both? And would you rather be in a relationship with a girl. I am bi-sexual and have had sex with noth boys and girls. I like girls more but I am still bi-sexual.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2007): I have 2 hands and I see a man on one hand and a woman on the other!!!! HAVE THE BEST OF BOTH WORLDS!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2007): Dont Worry hun! I Get Those Feelings All The Time. But You Have To think To Yourself Who Can I See Myself Falling In Love With...Male Or Female? For Instance Imagine Walking Into The Sunset Hand In Hand With Someone or Having Romantic Meals with Someone Is That Person Male Or Female?That Will Answer Your Qustions..But Remeber These sexual Feelings Are Totally Normal! Dont Worry x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2007): I know how you feel because lately I have been feeling the same way. But you know what? It really is perfectly normal to be feeling this way and whether a person is gay/lesbian/bi/transgender/straight, its okay as long as they are true to themeselves. And if you are feeling any anxiety or anything, then you need to just relax because only you and time can sort these things out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2007): I am 24 years old and when I was your age I to was confused about being equally attracted to both boys and girls. I ignored the attraction toward the girls for most of my life, but as I got older and came into my sexuality I learned that I am in fact bisexual and it is the actual person I am attracted to, and not there gender.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): "communicatrix" answered a 15 year old confused girl with what a university-proffessor would answer! lol LADY for gawds sake use language a TEEN can relate to..haha...and teen girl...its QUITE-normal to feel this way, the hormones U got releasing and -a-rushin round ya body are driving ya mad lol...Relax, observe, enjoy the wet.silly thoughts and when ya ready...you WILL know, and yes MAYBE a Nice guy will come-along...romance but hey DONT be pushed into ANYTHING! ..take yer time gal...be KOOL and be Smart...see, think, wait, then decide..15 is a tender age, theres NO rush at all...enjoy life I say..take care, be Happy !Whether its guys or gals ya into...time will show you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2007): Hunny your young thats what happends the horrimones are raging thats all that happends alot
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007): I feel the same way,and i think there is a good chance i lam Bi,i mean,ive already kissed boys and girls,and i like them both..but umm..its up to u to decide..
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reader, D +, writes (17 November 2005):
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You are young. And these feeling are very natural. And my guess is once you get to meet a guy ( a decent one ;) ) you wil know what your feelings are. No one is born bisexual or homosexual. It s only the influences and media that make us think like that. everyone is straight, so dont worry you are a normal straight girl who will fall in love, get married, have a beautiful home with children running around. Trust me. You dont want to miss on all of that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2005): I am 47 and heterosexual, three kids etc. but I have thought lately that companionship is what matters most. I would prefer a man sexually, but if I became close to a woman I could care for her sexually instead. I think I am 80% heterosexual and 20% bisexual. Just let your thoughts flow and that way you will discover yourself.
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reader, communicatrix +, writes (15 November 2005):
 It's fairly common for youngsters to be a bit confused in their sexuality. I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. And really, I wouldn't worry about it at all: despite what the conservative powers-that-be would have you believe, there are plenty of happy, well-adjusted humans of all sexual proclivities running around out there.
Give yourself some time. Try to stand back and observe or just feel your feelings without acting on them. My guess is that with time, you will naturally gravitate to the partner who is right for you.
If you are really worried about this, you might want to find a trusted older friend or counselor with whom you could discuss your concerns—if you are in a larger, urban community you might be able to find someone outside of your familiar circle who could provide some useful counsel or guidance.
Most importantly, please please please don't think there is anything "wrong" with you. People have all kinds of feelings, and some seem pretty outrageous. I'm not homosexual or bisexual myself, but believe you me, there are times when I feel a little thrill in the presence of an extraordinarily compelling woman.
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