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writes: Ok, so me and my girlfriend are after breaking up after 2 years together. Everything was fine until I went out one night 3 weeks ago and met a girl I know pretty well. She was pretty drunk and we were talking for ages and then I went to get a cab home. She got into the taxi with me because she lives near enough to my house. On the way she asked to see my phone and she put her number into it. When I got home I text her to see if she got home ok. Then the next monday I got a text from her saying sorry for being so drunk blah blah. I was talking to her for a while through text and that was it. Later that night my girlfriend was going through my phone and she read the messages. She went ballistic. I was not flirting with the other girl or anything just talking to her and she broke up with me saying I shouldn't have been texting other girls. I don't think I was doing any harm I wasn't flirting or anything just talking. She won't even speak to me now. What do u think?
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reader, ellie6 +, writes (27 November 2006):
 I think your gf has overreacted and seems quite insecure if she gets that jealous over a few harmless text messages.
All you can do is reassure her that you don't like the girl and you don't even look at other girls because you like ur gf so much- but also let her know that she cant control who u talk to and show her the texts again sayin that u can see theyre completely normal conversation and theres absolutely no flirting going on.
She can't not let u talk to other girls. Stop her from being so jealous, but reassure her that there was completely nothing going on.
If she truly loved u then she wouldnt throw ur relationship away just because of some harmless text messages.
Talk her round and I hope she sees sense :o)
Do u behave like this to her though? Do u get mardy if she's text other guys, because if u do then shes got the right to treat u like u treat her. :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2006): Well, the next time, if there is a next time, keep your phone to yourself.
You did nothing wrong that deserves being hung but at the same time how would you feel if your gf did that? Not nice. You were being caring by making sure that she got home ok, that is good. The next texts should of been avoided. Did you tell you gf about the shared taxi. It is all quite harmless but made worse by the not telling. The secrecy makes it look like something else. I can understand that but you are not a prisoner and you can have friends and speak to other people.
Just protest your innocence and hope that your gf will in time see that you genuiningly mean it. Send her some flowers and tell her in a card that you love her and nothing was meant by it. Its worth a try. good luck
Take care
xx
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