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*itsume
writes:My boyfriend is a virgin and I tend to get him really turned on by accident. He gets turned on by me even kissing him. Well he has figured out things that I really like and I am afraid that things will go too far too soon. I have talked to him about it and we try to just slow down on the physical stuff but then it kind of builds up then it starts again even more than before. Any advice...?
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reader, kitsume +, writes (23 November 2010):
kitsume is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all for your answers. They have helped a great deal. I think we'll try to go out more so hormones won't start raging, but if something happens and he does tell me he wants to take this to the next level then we will. I just want to know he is ready to.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (23 November 2010):
 Just read your follow up. If you two are not planning to wait till marriage then this is the natural course of events. Don't try to set things to a time line. He wants it to be with someone special and that is a feeling not an amount of time spent with someone. Maybe its time to ask him if he's ready to move to the next level. Even if you don't know if you will be with him forever I'm sure that isn't what he nescessarily is looking for right now. You're the special one to him and he will always remember the love you two have whether you're together or not.
It's nice to see how much you care about his feelings and I'm sure things will happen the way they are meant too even if it does not seem that way right now.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (23 November 2010):
First off I don't want this to sound anti religious or anything, I just want you to think about it. Ask yourself what are the real reasons why you two should restrain from each other. I'm not saying that you shouldn't wait but I am hoping that by you thinking of these reasons it will be clear in your head which path to follow and why.
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reader, Nithyanala  +, writes (23 November 2010):
 If you really want to avoid intimacy at this point in time, avoid being alone together. Hormones are damned powerful things - outsmart them, don't rely on your own will-power.
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reader, kitsume +, writes (23 November 2010):
kitsume is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe thing is though I have had sex and he knows that, and he's not necessarily waiting till marriage but more like till he meets the right girl, which he says is me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010): My girlfriend and I have had some similar problems. I'm assuming you guys are waiting to get married before having sex?
We have tried spending less time completely alone. We go out in public, go on group dates, hang out at her house (she lives with her sisters, try not to sit in the car together for too long, ect. Its really hard sometimes, but if you don't want things to go further you'll probably have to give up some being completely alone with each other.
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