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writes:Ok so today I did something really stupid and I don't know why I did it but here goes: so in order to revise for my exams I invited a few friends around, it ended up just being two of my close guy friends (let's call them a +b) and a couple other people who do the same subjects but anyone A came earlier so we started flirting and then it sort of lead to having sex since he was so early and nobody was here yet (we've both only ever has sex before and that was with each other because idk it seemed like a good idea) so anyway when everyone else came we pretended nothing had happened and did revision but then everyone left apart from B and I started flirting with him and I wasn't think and I took his virginity and now I feel really bad but I don't know whether I should tell them that I had sex with the other one the same day and I don't know why I do things like this
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2014): Everyone likes to say its normal to make mistakes like this. And it is, so forgive yourself.
But its also completely normal to be stuck with lasting negative consequences from sleeping around. Incurable diseases get passed, reputations get damaged, relationships get ruined, etc. Normal does not always mean harmless. So learn from it and wise up next time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2014): having sex with 2 people on the same day is not unheard of.It does happen especially with those who are having extramarital affairs.But as you would guess it is not such a good idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2014): Bad idea if you think of telling B that you had sex with another boy on the same day. Let it go,keep it to yourself.what if B develops feelings for you because you took his virginity?what if he thinks bad about you for sleeping with another guy on the same day that you took his virginity? Keep it to yourself. Just keep calm and move on.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 April 2014):
To be honest, you haven't really done anything wrong as such. You're not in a relationship, not committed, so therefore you're free to do as you please with whoever you want really. And it takes two to have sex - you wanted it, and they wanted it, so there's no harm in that. You're a normal young woman, you're allowed to have fun. You don't have to sit there and be twee, or take crap from anyone either.
The problem here is more the risk of STD's. Nothing wrong with having sex, but you need to be careful that you don't catch anything. This means using contraception, and means getting tested if you are having sex regularly. I would say that it's probably a wise idea to get tested. You may think one has only slept with you, and you may think the other was a virgin, but you can't be 100% sure.
Other than that, have your fun, enjoy yourself and just be safe.
Also, don't tell each of the guys you slept with the other. You probably shouldn't say anything at all really. It's no one else's business other than yours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2014): I think that, if this is true, you should see a counsellor to work out why you do things(?) like this. What other things?
Also, no, I don't think you should tell them - they may tell each other. Tell your mum so she can help you get the morning after pill and get a doctor appointment to check for STDs. IF you have an STD, you need to tell the boys.
Don't be alone with any more boys until you sort this mess out and get therapy because you'll hurt yourself and others. Be careful; you deserve to be safe and happy, so please get help with this - it'll be too difficult on your own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2014): I think that, if this is true, you should see a counsellor to work out why you do things(?) like this. What other things?
Also, no, I don't think you should tell them - they may tell each other. Tell your mum so she can help you get the morning after pill and get a doctor appointment to check for STDs. IF you have an STD, you need to tell the boys.
Don't be alone with any more boys until you sort this mess out and get therapy because you'll hurt yourself and others.
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