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writes: I found my boyfriend in bed with another woman both naked.I still want him in my life i cant let go.Is this right? Reply to this Question
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (14 April 2006):
 Hi,
There is no right or wrong in wanting him back in your life. The only wrong here is Him in Bed with another woman! It's not wrong to want him back in your life as you Probably feel quite deeply for him. Am I right???
You deserve better but it doesn't stop you still loving him. But the big question is : Would he do it again? And even Why was in bed with another woman in the first place?
You need to talk through every detail of this situation. See if he actually wants to get back with you or if he wants to get together with this other woman.
If he wants you and you accept him back in your life, you need to work through it together, it can actually make the bond between two people stronger when working through a situation like this together.
Good Luck, All the best and I hope this helped!
Phoebe
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (7 April 2006):
 You owe it to yourself to walk away. A hurt now will be far easier than one down the line when it does this over and over. yes you are hurting like crazy, but this will pass in time, it feels like it wont and it feels like the hurt will be there forever, but I promose it wont be. Take time out do other things to take your mind off this this and get out there and find someone new, staying with this guy will only end in more pain. Look out for you!!
Take care
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reader, Aunt Audrey +, writes (6 April 2006):
 If only we could turn off our feelings like a tap when it suited us.
Your boyfriend has hurt you and treated you badly, but you say you can't let go.
How much more humiliation are you willing to take?
This guy is bad news and you deserve better than to find your b/f naked in bed with someone else.
As much as it will hurt get him out of your life or set yourself up for a miserable time of it!
Good luck!
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reader, Sexybum +, writes (6 April 2006):
 I agree with Irish, I think she's said all that needs to be said. I would just like to add that you should listen to your gut feeling NOT your heart, you know that gut churning feeling that tells you if you love someone, hate them, desire something or repulse it!
Is he prepared to talk about it and understand exactly how he's made you feel? and are you satisfied with the answers you get? I would suggest that you stick to at least one golden rule:
"If you are unhappy or insecure at any point, leave and give yourself time to clear your head, DO NOT feel as if you owe anyone anything!"
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2006): There is no right or wrong here. The first thing, we all are tempted to say to you is "dump the cad" but that's unfair because we are not living your life, nor experiencing your deep feelings. But the only thing I want to say is..learn something from his behaviour here, dear. The best way to predict his future behavior is by taking note of this past behavior. What conclusions can you draw from that? I think you realize he possibly will do this again and again. The trust has been greatly shattered..can you truely love him without the trust? I hope you get to a point where you become strong, stand up for yourself and say, "I do deserve better."
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