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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:i broke up with my boyfriend a week ago, we were together on and off for a year!! we lived together. the reason i broke up with him is because he started talkin to many different types of women at work wantin to go to their place and hang out and stuff and also at the ending he was hanging out with his friends every day and hardly wanted to do anything together he just came home and slept! a few days ago he texted me tellin me that he wanted me back and that he was willing to work things out, so i agreed, we started hanging out he came over spent nights and we acted like a usual couple he still hugged, kissed and held me like he still wanted me ( we did not sleep together) but the thing is i thought i was wasting my time, i told him that it is either we get back together and work on things as a couple or we go our seperate ways, he chose the first one but he said it in a way like i was forcing him,he said he does not really want to get in a relationship right now all he wants to do is chill.so i called him and i told him that i am goin to give him the space he needs and when he is ready and if i am single then we can see what happens but right now i am moving on, he replied by saying okay!!!The thing is i miss him so much, have i lost him for ever???? what do u think?ps: i have to see him in a few days because he owes me money and i have to see him once a month because he has to give me money for his phone, because he is on my plan!!!
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reader, ij +, writes (22 April 2010):
 thanks for the advise he is added on my second line, he has his own phone, the thing is to pay bill every month i have to givr my pin and num and other info that i do not want to give him that is why he has to give me the money every month when the bill gets here, so stressful because i do not really want to see him i am keeping it no contact but i will have to eventually contact him for the money for the phone, which sucks! and yes he is a user, after what you wrote i am happy i left him, thanks!
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reader, Xtina356 +, writes (22 April 2010):
Have you ever heard of the term sugar mama? He's never going to leave you as long as he can borrow money from you and keep a phone in your name. So I guess to answer your question, no you haven't lost him forever because he's got a good deal running and you are enabling him. Telling you he wants to "chill" means he wants to be with other women without you telling him what he can or can't do. He already proved that is what he wanted a year ago. It's been an entire year and you are in the same place as you were a year ago. He is a user. Ask for the phone back when you see him. Stop using the phone as an excuse to continue seeing him. If he doesn't give it back, call your phone company and report it stolen and have them shut it off. You are not his mommy and he needs to get his own plan. Free ride is over.
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