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writes:Do ALL men look at porn and masturbate while in a relationship? My boyfriend insists he doesn't do either. He says porn makes him feel weird to watch and that he never even feels the urge to masturbate when I'm around (he does it when we're apart for extended periods). Admittedly we do have sex pretty much every day and I seem to have a slightly higher sex drive than he does. He seems to have a somewhat low sex drive for a guy, putting him about on par with me. He said when single he usually didn't do it everyday, usually 2-3 times a week and sometimes he'd go months without. I just hear from everyone that ALL men do it and that any who deny are liars etc... and the same with porn. I wouldn't mind if he was doing it much, I like porn and I like to masturbate. It would, however, bother me a lot if he lied. He says it bothers him if I look at porn or masturbate when we're not apart for extended periods of time, so generally I don't do either out of respect. But am I being stupid in believing him? I mean it's not a BIG deal or anything, I just don't want to be lied to...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2010): Sorry. He's lying.
Every male jacks off, regularly. He could be with Megan Fox all the time and he'd still find time for it.
He lies because he feels it will make you pissed off at him, because a lot of women take it to mean they aren't enough. And thats total crap.
Some might not like watching porn, but thats only because they have yet to discover a type of porn that gets them going.
No man does not feel the urge to masturbate. Its the way we a programmed. To want sex so much more often then we can get it. So we toss off to let out steam.
The fact he is uncomfortable is unnatural. It IS a private thing and not something you bring up unless you wish to work it into your love-making. But he is having a laugh if he trully says he doesn't have the desire.
We men all do. No matter where we're from. What language we speak, or even whether or not its even legal... we all do it.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (22 April 2010):
Some men don't like the horrible fakeness of porn. All those cloned girls faking orgasms and screaming.
It could be you have found a decent guy who can actually use his imagination when he looks at pretty girls.
My husband looks at pictures of hot girls (and pictures of me :o) ) but not the horrible blonde plastic things you get being videoed on the internet pulling stupid faces.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2010): It's all about sex drive. It's ok for you to masturbate. I had the same problem because my exgirlfriend had lower drive.
I am a sex addict and i need to have sex atleast one or two times a day and preferable 4. It depends on the person he just doesn't need it that much as you :) it like eating appetite.
But if the girl told me she likes porn i would be very happy guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2010): If most guys found out that their girlfriends were into porn they would be all on board! If he says that he doesn't like porn while you are together, and that he only watches it when you are apart, he is probably telling the truth. If he has a slightly lower sex drive and you have a slightly higher one, he might be worried that if he watched porn and masturbated, he would not be able to have sex as much as you want. It could be that simple!
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