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writes:I am so worried.. i have two options.. when I got my first i was so happy but he left me after 3 years.. he ditched me for a girl.. so after that i got a new friend.. he became my best friend.. he proposed to me many times but i refused.. then when he proposed to me a 3rd time and i accepted.. life was going normal.. but now my first bf came back.. now what shuld i do? he wants me back.. i know i still love my first bf.. but please guide me what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2010): You'd just be silly getting back with your ex. He left you for another girl. Your current boyfriend proposed three times! Which shows he obviously loves you.
If you don't love you current boyfriend (which is ashame) then you should break it off with the pair of them and find someone else.
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reader, Luckie128  +, writes (19 September 2010):
Hello? You're first bf LEFT you for another girl and you're considering on going back with him? You obviously have someone who loves you, your current boyfriend. If you're not happy with your current boyfriend than I suppest finding a new love.
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reader, ~sara~ +, writes (19 September 2010):
I say risk it and go with the first guy because you are stil in love with him after all this time. I think you might get hurt but it would be worth it if it works out. If you stay with your friend you will always wonder what might have been and I don't think you will really be happy. You need to get closure with your first boyfriend before you can move on. Also I don't think its fair to your friend to agree to marrying him if you aren't in love with him. You need to think of your friends feelings as well as your own. Marry the man you love and don't settle for less.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2010): I agree with the previous readers. I understand the attachment and love we all have for our first love but since he left you trust is lost. You don't have a guarante that he won't leave again
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2010): He left you for another girl, while your current boyfriend has continued to fight for you despite getting his first and second proposal rejected. That says a lot. Your ex boyfriend doesn't deserve you and your current boyfriend is truly committed to you. Don't go back to your ex, he chose his path and in doing so he chose the other girl over you. His loyalties lie elsewhere. As for your fiance/friend/whatever he is, if you don't truly love him enough to let your past go and move forward with him, then you shouldn't be with him either. He deserves to marry someone who will love him back. So reflect and think about how you truly feel. Did you have doubts before your ex boyfriend came back? If not, then maybe what you are feeling now is just because he was your first and first loves are always hard to forget. If you had doubts before your ex came back, then think about why you said yes to your fiance. A stable relationship is based on open lines of communication, love, and trust. Figure out how you feel about him, if you don't love him then let him go. But no matter what you decide to do about your fiance, leave your ex boyfriend in the past. He left you for a reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2010): The moto of most people is to follow your heart, but think about it logically, if you go back to the first guy more then likely he will leave you again. Yet, if you stay with your "bestfriend" as you said, you should be happy, you may spend time thinking about what could have been, but its best to move on because you dont need someone in your life whose going to leave you like that, especially not after three years.
To conclude I say move on from the first guy and stay with the second.
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