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writes: I recently went on a trip with about 30 friends. My last 4 girlfriends were there but i havent spoken to two of them in years, the other one was my best mate but things just didnt work out and we had a messy breakup but the other one I always have gotten on with she was my first love and i lost my virginity to her we finished about 6 months ago and she started seeing somebody else just days afterwards...which hurt me but we still got on.. anyway at this trip we hung round together and it was like normal, its like we dont really know how to be around each other without being like that.. She is naturally flirty and she kissed me on the neck and on the cheek twice so I dont think i should really take that as to mean anything because I know she really loves this new boyfriend (the same one she went out with days afterwards breaking up with me) but i still felt a surge of emotion for her and I cant fall in love with her again, she's absolutely gorgeous and she made it clear when we broke up she only saw me as a friend.. Somebody else fancies her who is friends with her and it basically ruined their friendship and I dont want that to happen so what do i do?
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (28 July 2007):
 Just be a friend and be supportive and funny and show her the side of you that she has always felt comfortable with.
You don't know how long things will continue with this new bf but if you are in the background who knows.
Just try to be the one she can talk to and just be the shoulder she needs from time to time. Don't rush in with oh I still have strong feelings for you.
Let her be the one to say anything if things ever change with the new bf - it has only been 6 months which isn't long and new relationships don't always last.
I know it is easier said than done when you have feelings for someone but unless they tell you they still like you then you don't want egg on your face. Just be a good friend and confidante and if she genuinely likes you then you are right there for her. Don't do the running at any point, let her come to you but only when and if the time is ready.
If she moans about the bf at any time tell her how you would handle things and if it is different to how the bf has done them then she can see what kind of guy you really are.
Don't waste your life though waiting forever as things may never change - we just never know.
Don't stop going out and enjoying yourself and if a fantastic girl comes along then go with it, you don't want to miss out on someone who is great just because you still like one of your ex's.
Just play it by ear and fate will decide one way or another OK.
Stay cool and keep on smiling.
Best of luck.
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reader, qt4life223  +, writes (28 July 2007):
well i think that you shouldn't get into all that with her if you are just friends even know she probably has feelings for you also. But since she has a boyfriend now and if her boyfriend ever found out there would be a lot of drama. Maybe you should explain that you do still have feelings for her. Don't let the 'virginity' thing stop you from being good friends. Be confortable around her. and yes don't take it too mean to much cause she probably likes to fool around.
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