A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hi How can I tell if a guy is still interested in me ?I went on a couple of dates with a really nice guy, on the 1st date he bought me a present, which was lovely. The next day he said he could'nt see me anymore and left it at that. The next day he sent me an apologetic text saying he was sorry and wanted to see me again, so we went out for a date the next day.He explained to me that he was unhappy in his job and just settled into his new house he moved into last week, the thing is his housemates are rowdy and threat of an eviction from the landlord if the noise carried on. He is different from the guys I normally date, he says he actually has respect for women and tends to wear his heart on his sleeve. He said he genuinely likes me, but he is not ready to date any woman at the moment, I said A would like to stay friends and he agreed. I have not heard from him for 4 days since our last date, does he mean it when he says he wants to stay friends. Please help as I really like him and would like us see each other even as friends, he is very affectionate towards me.
View related questions:
moved in, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Oblivia  +, writes (28 July 2007):
 It could be just as he says, that he really likes you but right now found himself overwhelmed with lots of other troubles. It could also be that he has some baggage from previous and when starting dating a new woman old things within him come to surface and he has to deal with this first.
It's hard to tell, and naturally hard for you to ask him about it after such a short time of seeing each others.
I would say to not give him up yet. Keep it open for him to get back to you but try find a gentle way, for your own sake, to make clear to him that you will be happy to date him once he makes his mind up. It will be very messy for your feelings if he continues stepping back and forward all the time.
And while he is making his mind up, go on with your life, do fun things with your friends and keep your mind open to the possibility of letting other men in. Just in case it would happen that after all this man wasn't so in to you.
Wish you luck, tell us how it goes.
A
male
reader, Andy00 +, writes (28 July 2007):
 He sounds like a good, caring guy. While he has a lot going on for him at the moment, and thinks that it's best that you both wait for a bit, he has tried to assure you that he does like you. I would be supportive of him since he is having a difficult time, and once things have gotten easier, hopefully you will be able to pick up from where you left off.
Good luck with it!
...............................
A
female
reader, flower girl +, writes (28 July 2007):
 He has told you he likes you and has explained his situation at the moment, so if you are prepared to wait i think you should just give him a bit of time.
Take care.xx.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2007): He's just NOT that into you!
Move on. If he calls you back, fine, take it from there. But don't be his slave!! He has all the control, can't you see that?
self-respect is the key, here: don't dwell on him, don't give him that power.
...............................
|
