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writes:Please help it's torturous.?I cant help it but keep thinking of a relationship that's already impossible. I cant stop thinking of my ex. It's torturous. I cant help it but i feel so much for him i feel so bonded. i am tired of having this influence my mood every day. i've been a sad, sad girl for months. i cry every night because i just get so upset. please be understanding and not answering, "yeah big deal. people are dying around the world and bla bla." i'm really, really upset.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (3 May 2010):
 Its a painful thing and I dont think anyone would disagree.
The head says 'Let go' but the heart says 'NO'.
Constantly thinking of someone you know, isn't coming back, is pure torture and it will wear you down and down.
Take time to really think about why the relationship ended, even if you arn't prepared to face the whole truth, you need to have a reality check so you can begin to heal.
There is always a very good reason why relationships end and when you have invested love and emotion, you have still been brave to do so. Work through the emotions and put them, one by one, behind you.
There is only one potential outcome...that you have to eventually move on. Be kind to yourself and make the transition to saying 'goodbye' as painless as you can.
Rid yourself of any visual reminders, pictures, gifts etc and confide in your friends.
Things will get better but only if you allow them to. Your in control...remember that!
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reader, raiders  +, writes (3 May 2010):
 You need time, time is going to help you ease the pain, and eventually look at it as a chapter in your life. It is hard because you gave your love, your soul to a guy and when the relationship ended you stayed with emptiness in your heart. You will out grow this, you also need to distract yourself so that you give your mind an opportunity to forget and little by little you will get over him.
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