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writes:My ex and I broke up a month ago after a two-year relationship. I still can't see him being with another girl without it killing me inside! And I'm definitely not ready for a new relationship, yet. I still love him and care about him to bits, but there are still very valid reasons we broke up. How do I get over this faster? And is it true that you don't want your ex to move on until you have?
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reader, Andrew83  +, writes (8 January 2009):
 I dunno where my post went to..well anyway, you shouldnt have to put up with being hurt all the time and being treated like shit, try to not think about him and i know its very hard not to but you have to move on with your life.One thing i've always done is follow my dreams (still following them), so follow your's if you so wish to and be glad that you did while you could.I also want to say i hope you like it here in the uk when ever you do come and enjoy the better part of british weather :)
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reader, Andrew83 +, writes (8 January 2009):
What ed1337 has said is right on the mark, cut all contact and it will very much hurt when this kind of thing happens.My ex moved on the same day she called it off with me, i know she did and have my reasons too. It hurt to see she had moved on with another guy and to have seen pictures of them kissin only a week and half later.For some (i'm one of them), it is true that they dont want their ex's to move on till they have first.
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reader, glory_b  +, writes (8 January 2009):
I feel for you. Break ups are horrible. You hurt on the inside, can't lighten up or let things go, and feel like you're all alone in your pain.You think that nobody understands your pain or what you're going through. But I'll tell you what has worked for me. You take everything you're thinking and tell some one you trust and love. For me it was my Mom. She'd sit up with me at 3 AM listening to my break up drama. And by the end, I honestly felt lighter. When I kept it all inside it ate at me.I wish I could tell you there's a trick to healing, but there is none. Our idea of "getting over it" is the wrong. If you think you're wrong to feel sad and hurt, you'll fight it. If you fight it, you'll compound it. Compounding feelings is like sweeping dirt under the rug.Make room in your life for sadness and hurt feelings, then it won't victimize you. Talk about your feelings, relate it to other people. You'll realize your experience has a melancholic beauty to it. Let it help you grow.I still have the occasional heart ache over the same person, and that's 2 years later. It comes in cycles, and the cycles slow down. Time goes by and your pain slowly drifts away. You'll meet a new boy who makes you forget you ever had a stinky ex boyfriend. I wouldn't trade the person I've become, for the person I might've been if she stayed. I like myself too much having grown rich from experience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt is really hard not to see him at some point during the week. But in a way, I'm kind of glad it happened because I'm so sick of being treated like shit and just plainly being hurt all the damn time! And in any case, I have a thing for British guys and I can finally live out my dream of moving to the U.K. in a few years! =]
I just can't picture him with someone else right now, though. And he isn't, it just hurts to think about.
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (8 January 2009):
 I'm guessing its hard for you to not see him at some point during the week? The best way I found to get over someone is to cut contact with them, even if you do still have feelings for them. It can be really hard at first, but its the only way to get over them fairly quickly.
My ex moved on straight away, I left her because her ex wanted her back. It was really hard knowing that someone I cared about was spending the weekend with another guy, thats when I knew I had to stop talking to her for a while.
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