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*aura12
writes:ive been with this guy for 11 months now and i feel really attached to him but ive realized that im in an abusive relationship i know its wrong and evreytime i break up its like im forced to go back because he litterally calls me more than 50 times a day and write me 3 page emails about him much he loves me. i dont know what to do im sure he cheats behind my back and ive cheated on him too. he doesnt know that. i feel like i need to be with him when hes not around i feel lonely. hes hit me before and i still stayed with him
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reader, Kenneth +, writes (26 April 2010):
Run girl Run. You do not need any man that hits on you. Leave him now!
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (26 April 2010):
Look, after he's beaten you enough you'll figure this out. He has SERIOUS and dangerous issues. You need to get out of this relationship and NOT let him bully you back into getting back with him so he can abuse you more! Go get some help so you can learn how to break this cycle.
If you're unwilling, get ready to be a punching bag. Might be a good idea to put an action plan together for when you've had enough.
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reader, jhawk2817 +, writes (26 April 2010):
ya i dont see the logic in that at all. You get hit and you stay in the relationship? You know he cheats and yet you stay with him? AND you cheat on him?
BABE, TRUST ME! This aint love, its just two insecure people with issues trying to make things worse unknowingly.
Break up, surround yourself with friends and family and this is a MUST; COUNSELLING. This will only get worse, BELIEVE ME!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2010): You should just stop all contact with him. If you block his email address you wont be compelled to read those long messages, so you wont feel guilty.You did nothing wrong,abusive relationships shouldn't be tolerated.Why stick around when he hits you. You should block his number and email like I said and forget him. He's not worth your time and energy.
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (26 April 2010):
It sounds like your boyfriend has some serious problems, if I was in this situation I would break up with him. I have been with some men that were major jerks, they did not treat me well or give me the attention that I wanted, BUT they never laid a hand on me and gave me the space that I needed. This guy does not love you, he loves to control you. He has sunk his hooks into you and now you don't know how to live with your life without him, that's sad considering you're just a kid. You need to get away from him, you deserve someone who will treat you better and you can actually have fun with. Your relationship is not healthy, you need to seek out professional help and break clean from this guy.
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reader, It's all be okay  +, writes (26 April 2010):
He has hit you. He is abusive. You must split up with this guy immediately.
You clearly don't live together, so you don't have a financial tie to him. So it should be easier to split up with him than if you had to leave your home to do it.
Get a new cell phone number, give it to your friends but not him, then you won't get his 50 calls.
Get a new e mail address, give it to your friends but not him, then you won't get his 3 page e mails.
He doesn't love you if he hits you. He only loves himself.
If you feel lonely when he's not around, turn to some friends or family for support. Do not stay with someone who hits you just because you feel lonely.
If you feel under any threat from him if you don't take his calls, make sure you tell people what has happened and report him to the police.
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