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writes: Is having kids worth it?OK heres how i see it. you raise kids, go through all the hard work. then one day they grow up and move out, get married, have careers, etc. and you end up in a retirement home. ironically, they start their own families and the exact same thing happens to them. am i just really cynical or is having kids not worth it. especially when the kids grow up. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2006): It depends. Why do you want kids? Why do you want to get married? Why do you want a boyfriend? First of all, I will never stick my parents in a retirement home. I will make sure I live close enough for them to call me up. Second, the whole idea behind having kids can be one or more of the following:1. continue the legacy, family name, and/or bloodline2. watch them grow up, be a part of their life, and get satisfaction from contributing to it3. play with your grandchildren, and be happy you have one potentially happy family4. see where everyone goes, how far they go, and how you relate to them5. and many other details, reasons, etcMy mom often says in Cantonese, "Kids, so expensive, so much work, so much headache and worry. In the end, you hope they learn compassion and is successful at what they do. Hopefully they can take care of us when we're old." In a way, it's selfish, but it's alright. Give and take, take and give. Round and round it goes.Mind you, you have to look towards a broader spectrum. You have to look at our future, and why it's there, and where we all might be going. Then again, the majority of people on this planet don't look that far. 8]
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reader, x Chrissy x +, writes (17 February 2006):
 Hey, I am sorry but I have to disagree with you, that is not what happens to children or parents for that case. When you have a child you give birth to the most wonderful thing in the world and you have the chance to bring up something that is so pure and good and if you bring up a child right then you will never regret it. Although there are times e.g (the teenage years) which is hard for the parents but you have to also realise that it is hard for them as well. I think that you have got the wrong impression about having a child, because although there are bad times the good ones always balance it out.Good Luck.
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