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*erato29
writes:i want my husbands family to accept me but it feels like it will never happen.we are from two different countrys and his family dont like me,his grandfather always tells him to get another wife bcoz he thinks its my fault we dont have a child.i have a doughter whos 10 from a previous relationship.i tried talking to them through the phone or send them emails but nothing works.i am so inpain i dont know what to do sometimes it feels like devorce is the only way out.i talk to him about it he says theres nothing wrong with his family,i havent spoken to them in years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): Dear sister
why you want to punish your man for some one else's dislikes and not getting along.
this is to me illogical and insane and most of the wife would feel the same though. if you want them to get along, then you need to do sacrifices to make them happier. They are not your MOM and DAD who can just be yours w/o any thing and take for granted. obviously you make to do some efforts and sacrifices to build the trust and attachments that you want to achieve.
w/o that you are at fault to say that why they can not just go along or etc etc??
so in my opinion, make efforts , not excuses..
Most of DILs have the same issue to deal so so do not worry about it as much as to think of divorce etc.
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reader, lerato29 +, writes (13 August 2010):
lerato29 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks i will do that it sounds good now i feel more relaxed coz i spoke about it.
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reader, Major Stallard  +, writes (12 August 2010):
Divorce isn't the way to go my friend, What you need to do is tell straight what you think about them, without getting angry, keep your cool, and tell them why you are a great wife to our husband, you respect him and his family, wether or not they like you.
It sounds to me that his family wants someone in the same country as him? If that is the case.......?
The whole world is fully of race and hate, but you stand tall and strong, fight for what is right, and have your voice heard by those who ignore you! Keep at it and see your relationship for what it is (without his family) a great loving marriage, explain that you are being emotionally hurt and feel that you cannot cope with his family bickering anymore! Maybe give your husband a few days on his make him feel like that he is loosing you. It should make him then tell his family a word or two!
Hope things work out soon.
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