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*ifesgood4
writes:My fiancé and I's fun time has gotten a gotten boring. We have tried new ways and it doesn't seem to work. What could we do to make it better? We've been engaged 7 months and I really want to fix it.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (12 August 2010):
 Thanks for the follow up and clarification!
I know one thing I like to do to mix it up is take a trip somewhere exotic. You'd be amazed at the deals you can find depending on the time of year. You go to a far off land together where you don't speak the language, and can explore. Few things better in my book.
Your best bet is to get out of your comfort zone. Often we have a tendency to fall into the dinner/movie date night. Wash, rinse, repeat. To mix it up, maybe take in some live theater, or go to a museum. Go to a festival and people watch.
Some less than ordinary date ideas:
live music, be it local or a national act, this is usually a lot of fun and often the same price as dinner and a movie.
Throw a party. Planning a party for no reason can be a lot of fun, and something you can work on together. Make a guest list, plan the menu, plan the drink list, games.
Board games. While these aren't for everyone, they can be a lot of fun, especially if you have another couple who you are friends with. A double date might be a nice change of pace.
Sporting events. Go check out a baseball game. Or since football season is coming up, maybe a football game. They don't have to be pro either. You can have a lot of fun going to check out your local high school team some Friday night.
Go cow tipping. Ok, maybe not, but that would likely not be something you do regularly.
Be mischievious together. Maybe play a practical joke on a friend, or go paint your initials on a bridge or wall. Maybe even the classic XX+YY in a heart. Who cares, it will be a rush and a testiment to your love.
Not knowing exactly what it is that you do together now that you find boring, some of these may be out, but hopefully I've given you a few ideas that you can use at least. Like I said before, my absolute favorite is travel. If you want any tips for finding deals, just ask or shoot me a PM. Cheers!
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reader, Lifesgood4 +, writes (12 August 2010):
Lifesgood4 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am talking fun time in general. Sex and just plain fun. We have tried things to make sex more interesting but that just doesnt seem to work. We have tried doing things we used to do just to have fun but it all seems so old. Him and I have been together for a total of 2 1/2 years.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (12 August 2010):
By fun time do you mean sex life? Or are you just referring to times you go out together? You've been engaged for 7 months, how long have you been together total? What do you like to do? What motivates you in your life? What motivates him? Are you adventerous? Do you have a fetish that you haven't explored? Does he?
The longer you're with someone, the more boring a relationship usually gets. Do you think you can embrace the boring?
I guess I need to know what you consider fun time in order to offer advice. Are you looking for date ideas or ways to spice up your sex life? If you let me know, I'll gladly offer some suggestions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): think about the early days when you guys just fell in love.
do the things you did back then. or try for one month to suprise each other every day with little things
send a cute email, or breakfast at bed,... things like that
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