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writes: A while ago I told one of my best girlfriends that I fancied her and she was OK with it. She is a year above me but we are stil really good mates. I think about her all the time and don't know what to do. The other day I told her that I loved her. I think that she is really good looking and sometimes fantasise about her.I started going out with this boy to try to stop these feelings but it didn't help. Am I a lesbian or bisexual? What should I do? Please help! xxx
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reader, Twinkey  +, writes (18 January 2010):
 You are a lesbian I know because I had the same feelings and did the same thing but its cool labels don't matter
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2007): this answer is waay late i know so you probably will never look at it, but just in case you do, id like to say, even if you fancy your friend, it doesnt make you gay. if you fancy males then you cant be gay just bisexual. however if you dint fancy males then maybe gay. also this "attraction" you feel may not actually be an attraction, maybe you just really admire her and think shes beautiful and are confusing that for actually being attracted to her. and one more thing, fantasing about another female, isnt that meant to be common even among straight women?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2006): Dump the guy and see what happens between you and her. Maybe if you'll get intimate with her than you interest in girls fades. If not... Stay with her. Easy as that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2005): Well do you still dream about boys or just girls. But if you feel like you like girls more than boys , then do what your heart tells you to do . from meg n sophie
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reader, alison +, writes (25 May 2005):
I have a friend who thinks she might be a lesbian and she told me that she likes me as more than a friend. At first I was suprised but I understood how she felt but I know that if she kept telling me she loves me I might get a bit annoyed. I think you should firstly dump the boy because you are using him and it will be better for both of you. Then you should just let nature take its course. Bear in mind that you might not actually be a lesbian, you may just feel closer to her than any other friend and are getting confused.Try talking to her and find out how she feels, if she likes you in the same way then that's great and maybe you could give it a go but if she doesn't, dont keep telling her you love her as this annoy her and it could damage your friendship.I hope this helps you. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2005): First off, dump the guy. If you're just using him it will be easier on both of you to just end it. Now, on to the main problem. Everyone's said it but there really isn't anything wrong with being a lesbian or bisexual. I think that you should get this girl alone and explain to her how you feel. If she fancies you as well then there is no problem. However, if she doesn't then it's better to know for a fact it will also mean that you can try to move on. It may be awkward for a while, but if the two of you are really good friends then eventually you will be again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2005): Hi there.You want honesty all young teen have this phase in their life it doesn`t mean you are either lesbian or bi sexual.All it means is that you are developing the way we all do.I had the same things happening to me when i was in my teens but eventually things worked themselves out and i got married and had kids.now i have divorced but live with my long term boyfriend and our son.I had the doubts but it is the hormones initially which cause all theis confusion.When yu get a little older you will be better able to determine your true feelings and then you will know for sure one way or the other just like all the other people out there.I really hope that this helps you out a bit.Take care and really don`t stress about it just get on with enjoying being young.
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reader, wwww.datinghaven.com +, writes (9 May 2005):
Bisexual?!? If you have feelings for someone.. being with someone else whether male or female, wont over-rule fade out the feelings you have for the other person. Most people would say lesbian as you went with a boy that didn't stop your feelings, but i reckon your bisexual. Anyway, you like that girl, gl ;) I dont think you should worry about being classified, theres nothing wrong with being lesbian.What to do, hmm... From my experience of the female species...they say to each other they love each other, meaning mates, also alot of girls cuddle and kiss each other, yet males cant do this without being classified as gay. When they say they love each other they normally mean as just mates and also when you say you fancied her she might of took it as a compliment meaning she looked good.What i would do if i was in your situation, is if you can get her alone somewhere away from people, like down a park, preferably after you had a few to drink (no booze drinking though ladies), talk about normal stuff: gossip etc. then pick an moment to kiss her, then pull away, then try to snog her, if she doesnt like you the same way she should pull away and avoid, but if she does, she should still be there snogging you.Also think you should stop using that boy! :D
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