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writes: Hey Guys I start dating an old childhood friend. I couldnt believe how happy i was. I never knew what being treated was untill i met him. I was falling for him fastly and he said he felt the same way too. Then one day out the blue his ex came back on the scene begging him back. She promised him the world. He talked to me about it. He said he wasnt sure what he wanted as she had cheated on him several times and felt constantly going back was a bad habit. But then he said he didnt want to ever regret not giving it another go. He had only been split up with her for 4 months. I remember when i split up with my first love if he came back after four months i would have took him back, so i told him to give it anoter go. I was heart broken.Within a few days he called me saying how much he missed me and that he was regretting it all ready. He would call me every seond day to tell me how he felt. Funny just as i was getting over him, he appeared back on the scene saying things never worked out and would like to give it another go with me.We started seeinge each other again, i was very guarded at first but soon fell for him again. The thing is though i constantly panick now when he is going out with friends or when he says he will and doesnt, i feel physically sick.His ex still calls him, trying to mess with his head or make him feel guilty by saying that oh her son has been asking for him, or that she is seriously ill. He falls for it all the time and he will call her to make sure.Its really getting me down as before i was very proud of myself at how trusting it was. Im scared incase i push him away with my panicking that he is back visiting the ex. He tells me that its me he wants.I dont know if i should put an end to our relationship so i dont get even more hurt. Or give him the benefit of the doubt??Thank you for listeningMcphail83
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reader, Tim +, writes (22 November 2005):
 Seems he loves her as well, coz he has a child and he is the father? if he keeps u in the darkness and stuff it will hurt u even more than u been hurted already few times here and there, when children play with knife usually they cut their hands? u better act like adult and be careful coz he can her at anytime if she calls him it means still they see each other? and she is his first love. and he can not just ignore her, ur nightmare will begin when u find out he is cheating on u big time.
I think u dont need a guy with double face and double life style, who has wife and kid and u r his fiancy, put an end to painful relationship like the one u chose to have for urself and stop hurting urself even more. I m sure there are many single guys out there without kids and wife will fall for u. Let time heal ur heart's wound and u will be in control of ur feeling and u will be very happy girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2005): Ask him if he is ready to commit to you...and if you know that he is, then let him know that you are not comfortable with his ex girlfriend calling any more as it is you that's his main girl. If he takes offense to it, then ask him how he would feel if you did the same to him. Try your best to do this tactfully without hurting him, but by letting him know how much it hurts you. Good luck, I really hope things work out for you. Whatever you decide, God Bless.
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