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writes:Okay, so I have a kind of bad story, but I need some advice, without bad comments please. So I have been talking to my ex whom I dated about five years ago. I am still crazy in love with him, and he told me there is no reason why he would not go out with me. (before he got a g/f). So I asked him how it was going with his g/f and he said "alright, could be better." So that was like my cue to jump in. Well, the other day he actually slept over and we slept together, and there is actually a possibility I could end up pregnant. It was awesome too because it wasn't like we had sex and he left, or just went to sleep. Like the whole night he was cuddling with me and I move around a lot, but every time I moved he would find a way to hold me. Im wondering how do I get him to be with me and not her? They have only been dating for two months, and he already isn't too into it. Then again I think well if he cheated on her, he will cheat on me. But I love him so much Im willing to see how it goes. Usually I would NEVER do something like this, but I do really love him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2009): Im a guy and im the same as your ex,except my ex has someone too.and were to proud stuborn and confused to do anything so you tell me
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (23 November 2009):
 If he's not willing to break up with a girl he's only known for two months, I don't think there is anything you can do to get him back. He is where he wants to be, and that's not with you. I hope I don't sound too harsh, but I've been where you are and actions speak louder than words. Even if things don't work out with his current girlfriend, he will probably continue to sleep with you, but will not get into a relationship with you (again, if he wanted to be with you he would break up with her NOW). Cut your losses and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your replies! I actually talked to him about it and he said that he does have feelings for me but that him and his girl got something going on right now. So that mad me angry, but whatever. See I made the mistake of distancing myself from him because I was afraid to fall hard and get hurt and thats when he got a girlfriend. Now I totally regret doing that. Its sad to say, but I pray they don't work out. I am not trying to get pregnant, but I would not mind having a child with him, because I do love him so much, but I do already have a two year old with someone else so I don't want another mess. It just all sucks so bad. My period is due in two weeks so we'll see what happens, but I highly doubt I'll get pregnant, but who knows. I guess for now I'll space myself from him and try to just forget my feelings for him :/.
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reader, BlueBag  +, writes (16 November 2009):
 Firstly, if he said that there was "no reason he wouldn't go out with you" (really doesn't sound very keen in my opinion) then why did he go and get another girlfriend? This on its own is ringing alarm bells for me. He sounds to me that he likes to keep his options open and keeps girls hanging on for him to make up his mind.And secondly, he cheated on his girlfriend pretty easily and didn't feel very guilty about it if he continued to hug you through the night. And he didn't use protection with you whilst sleeping with other girls?? Again, major alarm bells!!This guy seems to be a complete player. He may not have been when you used to be together but he sure as hell is showing every characteristic of being one now.If I were you, I'd cut your losses before you get hurt. You may still love him but as you said yourself, he cheated on her so what's to say he wouldn't do exactly the same to you? You shouldn't put yourself through a relationship with that unsurety always hanging over you.There are plenty of men around that will not cheat on their girlfriends or play around with girls' emotions. Go find yourself a good guy and leave this guy to play his own sick games. You deserve it.I hope this helps, keep us posted :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): really girl youre playing with fire, i once had that problem of yours,i was still in love with him but he showed that he didnt care anymore.as u said u want to get pregnant thats a wrong decision,i kept on seeing this guy who was telling me he also loved me and that he wanted to marry me; it happened one day, we had sex then i got pregnant.he was so scared how was he going to tell his girlfriend,so please don't ever do the mistake i have done cause you will end up having an abortion.tell the truth now
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