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writes:OK... So I slept with my friend (Ultimate mistake!!) And of course, me being the chick, I started to have feelings for him.I thought we could have been really good together and I know he did at one stage too cuz he told me. Anyway, I have totally ruined things between us cuz I got drunk at a pub on Chrissy Eve and acted like a fool..Apparently I cracked the sh*ts at him? I dont remember this cuz I was drunk. Then he texed me to see where I was and why I left... this of course spurred on my drunken text rampage!! I couldnt stop.I think he even stopped replying and I still kept going! haha! I have kept my cool for the 6 months that we have been seeing each other, giving him space... more than when we were just mates... but i had to expect that... then I get drunk and release the WHOLE CAN of crazy on his a$$!!! My last text to him was... I cant help it, I like you... and he wrote "Obviously, You're cool, but you scare me. I dont do clingy" Well... I gotta say I was mighty p*ssed off about that message the next morning. I am NOT clingy!!! I barely even text/email him anymore and we used to talk everyday for 2 years... emailing, texting and when we werent doing that we were facebooking online... That nite I drove DRUNK and he texted all of my friends begging them not to let me drive home... so he was clearly worried about me... he also texted me telling me not to drive.. Unfortunately I dont even remember this... scary :( I have never done that before... I always catch taxis... ALWAYS... I will never get that drunk again its not worth it... I ruined my relationship with him and I could have crash and killed myself or someone else... I just lost all control!! Anyway I am highly ashamed of my behavior at the pub that nite and although I dont remember it I know that I really embarrassed myself and now people are suss about us (we kept our thing secret) He obviously doesnt have the same feelings for me and now I just feel used... I really didnt think he was the type to risk such an awesome friendship... He has never had a GF and he is 27!! He is shy and respects women... He is a really good guy... He is just not that into me and I need to move on... I didnt hear from him again after chrissy until New Years... He messaged me Happy New Years and I wrote back hours later saying the same and that I was sorry about before and he didnt reply... He emailed me and another girl today (a girl he HATES) saying "entertain me!! Im bored!!" just like old times... I ignored it tho.... I dont want to pretend like nothing happened!! We have never talked about our hook ups we pretend nothing has happened... I cant do that anymore... I get the feeling he doesnt want to talk about it either... Plus he was talking about checking out hot girls in each reply to this other chick on the emails today(I was included on the emails) I found this an immature way to say "Im not upset with you, I want to still be friends...but I dont like you and Im looking at other chicks" Jokes on him tho as I have already slept with someone else... but I am mature enough to keep that to myself and not tell him...So I need to get over him and I cant do this with him in my face... Do you think its a good idea to just ignore him for a few months.... He will eventually give up on me... I know that... I want that to happen, I need to have time to not talk to him, see him and get over him.... What do you guys think? I wont lose him forever... I have known him since I was 3 years old... Its a HUGE deal that we have even crossed this line...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010): Please, the only thing that got to me was your driving while drunk. You could have killed yourself and others. YOU NEED TO REFRAIN FROM DRINKING. You should never have impaired yourself that you were oblivious of your own judgment. You are Mrs Hyde while intoxicated. Very scary.
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reader, missSamanthamary  +, writes (6 January 2010):
if you no your not gonna loose him and hes a good friend then just stop talking to him for a while , from the sounds of it tho you really care about him , i almost wanna tell you to go out with him cause i pretty much got my boyfriend like that me and him were best friends and we did shit together and he asked me out after , but if your trying to get over him then just give him space it kinda seems like thats what hes trying to do with you , i think that you mean more to him then you no.dont hang around if its hurting you tho its not worth it just take a break from the texting emails and careing about what hes doing , the next time you talk you can catch up again but just dont talk to him at all for a while ,also if you act like a fool when your drinking and its effecting people who care about you , then stop drinking all together or when you drink dont get drunk just have a few and have some fun , theres no need to act like a fool OR drink and drive! thats really not smart of you ...anyways good luck i hope this helped at least a little bit , i hope things work out for you
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