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writes:well theres this boy right...and i met him a few weeks ago and i think iv fallen in love with him? I'm 15 and hes 17 the past week we have became really close and hev kept coming down 2 see me etc..i slept with him the other day and since then he havnt been down he aint replying to my texts or nothing...i think i have been used?? and then yesterday he called me tellin me he doesnt want to know anymore hes found a gf! what can i do to get him back!! i love him...Please Help!
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reader, loretta +, writes (13 May 2007):
 to be honest i wud av to say 4get bout him. it sounds like this lad only wanted u 4 1 thing n i think its time 2 move on. this lad says his got a new girlfriend n is moving on so thats wat u shud do. get together wit sum mates n take ur mind off him, i find mates r the best cure 4 a broken heart! take this as 1 of lifes learning curves. u'l soon get over him n realise thats just the way life is. u make mistakes to learn from um n i wish u all the best x x x
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reader, love-him +, writes (13 May 2007):
 chcik get over him, he aint worth you!! im sorry 2 say this babe but he has used you, u r young and have a great life ahead of you, dont waste one more second worrying about this lad, he isnt worth it!!! hope i helped, mail me if u wan 2 talk x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2007): Yeah, that is what I meant to say if I had taken the time to share the insight to that universal truth....but sometimes you just have to "live it" to get it so I did not want to waste my breath.
Honey, got your e-mail, don't waste one more precious moment feeling down about him being with a new girlfriend, she will be old news soon....it has not reflection on you or who you are. This guy does not deserve your respect let alone your affections....move on, he is not good enough for you, for hurting you in this way....Take care, you will get over him as soon as you stop obsessing about him and what he is doing with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2007): I agree with Rhythmandblues. I'm sorry to hear what's happened too. Unfortunately this is sometimes the way that things work when it comes to sex, most guys your age, and some guys older are more interested in having sex than they are having a relationship. He may have told you things that weren't completely true, and for that he is wrong. A week is not long enough to get to know someones true nature. You need to give a guy much more time to prove himself - to show you that he wants to be with you, and you only. He should be focusing his attention on you, and proving to you that he is not interested in anyone else. This works both ways because in that time when you are getting to know each other, he too will become attached to you so will not want to be with anyone else.
I feel sad for you that you have feelings for this guy when he doesn't have the same kind for you. But you need to see that there is nothing wrong with you in that he has chosen to be with someone else. I have seen many girls heartbroken in situations like yours and many go on to disrespect themselves and their bodies by ending up having numerous successive sexual encounters with other guys to try and feel "better" about the rejection they have experienced. Be aware of that, don't be one of those girls and instead try and focus your attention on to other things and have that inner strength in you that knows that you weren't at fault here, and there is a guy out there would never treat you in the way that this guy has treated you; because you will meet that person in your future. Take care and all the best with whatever you decide to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2007): Hi, I am sorry this happened to you. Here is a universal truth. Girls who sleep with boys at the age of 13 through 50 before there is a commitment to an exclusive relationship will get dumped by the boy more often than not. Boys want sex, they can act "as if" they love you in order to get it...you give it, act all in love, and it sends him running. He loses respect for you just as quickly as you gave him sex.
In the future do not sleep with a boy until he tells you he wants to date only you.
By the way, what are you doing having sex at this young age? What ever happened to being a kid? Please develop yourself as a person with interests, skills and hobbies, think about having a career so that you can support yourself without a man having to do it, and you will have more freedom of choice and power in the world than you can imagine at 13.....Be careful, don't get pregnant, stay in school, that is my advice.
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reader, Beki +, writes (13 May 2007):
 Do you really love him after a few weeks, it sounds like you've been used sweetheart, just move on there'll be another guy out there for you and he'll treat you better. He sounds like a complete twat. Your young move on find someone who likes you as much as you like them.
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reader, in my opinion +, writes (13 May 2007):
 from what are you saying it sounds as if he was just after sex. you should leave well alone and find someone better. he obviously has no respect for you or he wouldnt have behaved the way he has.
hope it works out for you.
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