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writes:In the past month or so I have gotten in a routine of dating guys for only a week. This is my fourth boyfriend in the past two months. They weren't meant for me but I really like the guy I'm with now. The only problem is it's been a week and I already feel bored. I don't have much experience with this type of stuff because I haven't been in a long relationship before. Can you please tell me how to make it interesting or am I just being paranoid. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2007): You're a teenager. It is the normal state of things for teenagers to be bored.
If dating is that boring, don't push the issue. Find other activities to fill your time and take a break from the dating. Join a team or a few clubs, or study harder.
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (1 May 2007):
 Since you are 16-17 and new to the relationship stuff, getting bored easily is normal for your age! You might not be ready for a long-term relationship at this time. You need to get more experience at relationships...find someone who shares the same interest as you. Find fun things to do together...like sports, theme parks (places like Disneyland...if any in your country) doing something creative (like art...painting) whatever you like doing.
One thing I should say is make sure what ever guy you do find treats you with honor and respect! Kick those out of your life who try to make you do anything against your will!!
Good Luck!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2007): Yes, you are being paranoid. Why do you have this high expectation that if the relationship isn't exciting..there is a problem? Anyone will tell you that no relationship is exciting all of the time. Give this a chance. You just haven't met the 'right' guy yet, hun or maybe this guy you like is the one. On;y you know that. Can you be just yourself, have fun but have quiet moments with him...do you really, really enjoy being with him? Do you communicate well about shared experiences? If he is the right guy for you all I have to say, there would be no such thing as boredom in a relationship with a guy you just want to hang out with, dear. How can you one be bored with the 'right' partner when your needs are being met, when you have great communication, when you feel loved and love back? Some romantic relationships stay active, only with an optimal level of unpredictability or uncertainty. I dunno, that seems almost fake.. You want a relationship where you can completely be yourself, get bored together with some great guy, then laugh about it and then forget it. Be yourself, have fun, laugh and just enjoy being young and crazy
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reader, Helen Help! :)  +, writes (1 May 2007):
 hi huni i see your only aged 16 - 17 im gunna give you some advice only bein 18 nearly 19 myself i have been with my bf just over 2 yrs im bord as hell but love him too much to leave ive jus cheated on him big time becuz i was bord n ive told my bf n luckily hes stayed with me. dont worry that your gettin bord of these guys your only young theres no need to rush to settle down i wish i hadnt i wish i had never got this serious with my bf at such a young age because i feel like i havnt experienced enough. and trust me when your older and you find "the one" you wont get bord so easily :) take care
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reader, maverick +, writes (1 May 2007):
 Your age says 16-17 so I agree to some extent with cd206. You are young and you will develop your relationship skills.There is also another point to consider in relationships, and that is there are various phases you go through. Initially most people are smitten or infatuated by their partner. Then they get together - a "honeymoon" period. Then follows the main stable relationship.After all the chasing is over, it will come down to both your ability to get along. You will get to a point where you are no longer a big mystery to each other and start to get comfortable ( this can lead to boredom) - unless you two are "compatible".If you are "compatible" then you will last a lot longer. Compatibilty covers a lot of areas such as humour, behaviour, support, beliefs, habits, interests, social life, etc.Don't worry, this is a learning situation for everyone. Good luck. M
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reader, cd206 +, writes (1 May 2007):
 There's nothing wrong with this, you're just not ready to commit or not meeting the right guys yet. This will correct itself as you get older.
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