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female
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30-35,
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writes:I seem to be unable to climax through vaginal intercourse. When my boyfriend goes down on me or when he plays with my clit I'm fine but when we have sex I cant seem to come.I've been with a few men and I've had the same problem with all of them, I've tried masturbation with both fingers and a vibrator and its becoming very frustrating. Any advice?I know some women require clitoral stimulation however I feel that I can come, I'm just unable to if that makes sense. Is it the boys im with? the fact i dont know my body well enough? am i being too impatient?Any feedback would be appreciated. thanks.
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reader, Cheri_8  +, writes (11 June 2010):
I normally can't too....but I can with clitoral stimulation...it's bliss =)
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reader, person12345  +, writes (11 June 2010):
 Most women can't come from vaginal stimulation. Only somewhere around 25% can. It's a myth that you're supposed that started long ago with Freud. In order to try to have a clitoral one through sex (there's no such thing as a vaginal one) you need to find positions that either hit your clitoris or enable you or your boyfriend to get a hand in there. Spooning or doggie are great for this. "I know some women require clitoral stimulation however I feel that I can come, I'm just unable to if that makes sense." Your vagina has very few nerve endings. If you're going into this hoping that purely through vaginal penetration you can have an orgasm, you're going to have trouble. All women need clitoral stimulation (or G-spot). Our vaginas aren't our pleasure sex organs. They are for babies. Our pleasurable organ is our clitoris and it's a wonderful thing, especially since a clitoris has no function other than pleasure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2010): Apparently LOTS of women are unable to climax through vaginal intercourse alone. At times like this the tragedy of Satindesire's absence becomes very apparent, she was an aunt on this site who wrote a lot of great stuff about this particular matter. Sadly - almost obscenely - it's all been deleted and she's no longer with us. I'm not a woman so don't have any especial advice to dispense, but I think the idea is to find out where your clitoris is, and the rest will follow. Good luck.
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (11 June 2010):
 One of the key factors is to relax and not focus on it too much. Just enjoy the feeling of it.
A lot of women can't orgasm during intercourse, even with clitoral stimulation. It doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with you, or that your boyfriend isn't doing the right thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2010): Try girl on top and rock, don't move up and down, like slide a bit foward and back. Try to do it fast. And lean forward a bit.
Hope you understood it.
It ALWAYS helps me. Lol.
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