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writes:I became good friends with this guy we told each other everything. it then became something more, but we both had partners which was wrong i know. i broke up with my boyfriend because we weren't right for each other he never found out about the fact that i cheated. a few months later i was still having an affair with my friend, then they broke up. but while he was trying to get her back (which he did, they are together again) he told her everything about me and him. she then messaged me and told me to stay away in every way possible. but i see him everyday on our bus to college, each day it hurts me more just to see him, he was the person i was closest to. and i don't know what to do. please help me
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (7 May 2011):
 Hello, It's smart to stay away now. He chose to get back with his girlfriend. That was what he did and he didn't chose to stay with you. It's best to leave things alone now. Especially as the girlfriend has asked you to keep away. Don't let things turn nasty.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (7 May 2011):
 Hi its no wonder you feel so hurt, but unfortunately this boy has decided where his heart is. He has told his girlfriend everything because he don't want to keep any secrets from her, or skeletons in the closet, and in his defense fair play, for coming clean. However He has not handled this right or fair towards you. I understand how upsetting this must be for you to see him every day, but you need to hold your head up high and try to move on from this, and take this as a learning curve. If he see's you looking down and upset all the time it wont make no difference to how he feels towards you, it will only feed his ego. if you put your focus on your college work, and start going out with friends, you will see just how quick you will start to feel better. And who knows the right guy may be waiting for you, but your not letting yourself find him !! I hope this helped P.S stay strong :)
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (7 May 2011):
 Well its good that you realise it was wrong to have something with this guy while you were with somebody. I'm not sure what can be done here, I understand why she said what she said but that doesn't particularly help you. I think this one is a question of time really. Its cliched and you wont particularly believe it now but in time this will get better. One bit of advice it might be worth following is trying to focus on your friendships. It seems one of the things you miss the most is the ability to confide in this guy. You can have that outside of a relationship. Find somebody you can confide in and talking to them may ease the pain. You may also need this to help the healing process, to work through the emotional experiences you have just had. Try and keep your mind occupied with stuff, dont give yourself time to dwell. Maybe try some new things, go to new places, do whatever it takes to keep your mind away from the pain your feeling inside. Try and be positive and believe it will get better although that is much easier said than done. You will be ok. Good luck and take care :)x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): you were playing with fire and you got burned, now you have to think about his happiness. the truth is if he wanted you he would have broken up with his girlfriend to be with you but he didn't he's with her, i know it sounds harsh but there's nothing you can do if you truly care about him let him be happy with his girlfriend and stay away from him eventually you'll get over him also and those feelings will
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