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writes:We were engaged for 2 years. We met because his cousin is married to my cousin. I cheated on him over and over again. I put him through a lot,he cried and suffered a lot.I got pregnant by one of the men i cheated with. He still took me back with another mans child. I cheated again. Got pregnant again. He still took me back. But things werent the same anymore. We would constantly argue,he wouldnt return my calls,wouldnt text anymore. Just a complete 180. Then one night i gave him an ultimatum and told him that i wanted us to move in together and get married,he said he needed time,i told him to fuck off and never call me again. i dint think hed take it serious.but he did.changed his number.i did too.7 months later i went looking for him because i was going crazy thinking of him.He opened the door and was sooo happy to see me again.we spoke for hours,he at first denied he had a girlfriend,but then admitted he did.and asked me not to stop talking to him because of that.but i told him i couldnt be his friend because i loved him.He hugged me really tight and started crying,we said our goodbyes. i was crying hysterically i lost him,i lost my life.He told me he didnt love me anymore but always tjought about me. 2 weeks later my mother said he came looking for me.i was really excited and sent him a teddy bear with my number.he called me that same night and we spoke for hours about random things.its been 2 months he hasnt called me or gave i called him.I miss him so much everyday i regret my stupid actions. Why did i have to ruin this :-\ i just want to know if he still has feelings for me from what i described? although i want him back,i wont interfere in his relationship. he deserves it. i just want to know if he might still feel something for me. Help please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2012): You are already interfering in his relationship and tbh you don't deserve to after the hell you put him through! No offence. And the way you treated him whilst you were together proved you dont love him.
Do the right thing by him and leave him be with his new girlfriend and let him be happy because you wasn't a nice partner to him and he gave you chance after chane and you threw it back in his face.
Just walk away.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (14 August 2012):
 I'm afraid only he can really answer if he still has feelings for you. It sounds like he might, but the mere fact that he hasn't been in touch with you for 2 months doesn't make things sound too positive. As hard as it may be for you, for your own sanity you might want to move on now. He already has, or at least is trying to. Sometimes a person can get hurt so very much that they just can't go back to the way that things once were. I'm afraid this might be what happened with him. I agree that you really need to figure out why you cheated on him so much and why did you hurt him so much? Until you figure that out you really can't go back or move on.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (14 August 2012):
Instead of asking us whether you may have a chance with a man who is currently in a relationship, you really need to ask yourself the following questions and answer them honestly:
Have you addressed the reasons why you cheated on him so many times?
Have you worked on yourself and your personal issues so you will be able to have the kind of relationship you want with another person?
Why do you feel you love him so much? What qualities does he possess that make you feel that he is your ideal mate?
What have you changed about yourself, if anything, that would make another chance at a relationship with him worthwhile for the both of you?
If things have not changed, you will keep repeating the same sad cycle.
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