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female
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36-40,
*ratt
writes:HI,I have been dating a guy for four and half years. He is very simple and shy guy. He treat my roommate as a sister. Last night we three were drunk but I was that drunk. I don't know how high he was, I saw him putting his hand in my room mate breast and hugged him, I couldn't see that any more so I woke up. Now he is saying that he doesn't know what happen and why? He is asking for forgiveness. What should I do?
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reader, QZ  +, writes (28 June 2010):
 I agree. Being incapacitated is no excuse for feeling someone else up. More importantly, why are the three of you spending your spare time getting drunk and high? Maybe if you aimed a little higher on the social ladder, you'd find a guy who wouldn't feel up your roommate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2010): Yeah, I don't buy the too drunk and high excuse, he simply has poor impulse control and he felt like feeling your roommate up, he's a dog basically.The bigger question here is why are you dating a guy for four and a half years without the committment of marriage? He isn't really committed to the relationship if it's taken him this long to decide to marry you.Further why are you involved with a man who is a drunk and a pot head? Those ought to be deal breakers in any serious relationship, it shows his lack of maturity for one, lack of responsibility, and lack of judgement...are you sure you want to keep your cart hitched to that horse? The breast incident is just the tip of the iceberg my dear, look a little deeper.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (27 June 2010):
 When my husband and I were newly married, maybe 1-2 years, we had a party and he felt up a friend's leg at the party (can't/won't explain how that was an opportunity). I told him that the next time he did that I'd bring out the casted iron, after 35 years, it's never happened again.
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reader, Wise Woman of the Forest +, writes (27 June 2010):
 Ow, I can imagine how much that hurts. I know I would want to keep the guy away from my room mate, but understand it won't happen. Being as he was high/ drunk some lenience should be given to him and if he's sincere about his apology, you should forgive him. If your room mate insinuated the breast-molestation, be wary of her. But you should know that drink and pot acts as a sort of aprodesiac. He most likely wouldn't do it sober. (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2010): Being drunk, high, whatever, no excuse. If you know that's how you get when drunk, then you watch how much you drink. If my boyfriend did this, he'd get a slap in the face and possibly a break up.
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reader, spinnaker +, writes (26 June 2010):
 BEing under the influence of alchohol, Pot and other drugs or a combination does lower your inhibitions and considering that you were all in such a state, some latitude should be given to his actions.
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