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writes:I'm 17 years old and my boyfriend is 16. We met a while ago while he was on vacation here and we liked each other a lot, so he asked me out. He lives 7 hours away and we're in a long distance relationship. Before last night, everything was great. He is the most sweetest guy on the planet and I'm definitely in love with him, and he loves me too.He told me that if I go to parties, its okay if I dance with other guys. I went to a party last night, and I danced with one guy, only once. When I got home, I told my boyfriend about it and he was fine with it. But then I said the dumbest thing. I told him how the guy I was dancing with got an erection while I was dancing, and I could feel it on my butt. I have no clue why I told him that..I wasn't thinking. He got so mad..he didn't talk to me for a few minutes..then he told me he was disappointed. Then later that same night he started accusing me of all these things. Like, having another boyfriend..still doing stuff with my ex..cheating on him ..which I do not do. I love him with all my heart and I would never even think about cheating on him or lying to him. He totally changed and he was acting so mean. He's usually always telling me how much he loves me and he wishes we were together..but last night when I told him I loved him he didnt say it back..he said "yeah okay". Then he said he can't trust me and I said "Are you thinking about breaking up with me or something?" and he said idk. I don't think I did anything wrong ..except saying something I shouldnt have. Last night when I got sleepy I asked if he was even gonna talk to me ever again after tonight..and he said yeah.But he hasn't called or texted or anything all day. And I don't wanna call/text him first because I don't want to seem..idk..annoying? I don't know what to do ! Help me please..I really do love him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): One thing you gotta know is that guys get really jealous when their girl seems interested in others. To you, it may be just dancing but he might think you told him that to make him see that u are very much attractive to other guys and so you've got other options. You just made him feel insecure that's all. A subtle apology and behaviour assuring him of your love might just do the trick.
GOOD luck!
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reader, Six_Floors_Left +, writes (22 August 2009):
 Well she answered the 1st part of the question so ill go ahead and tell you this. As a guy i know that when im suspecting something the longer its in my head the more blown out of propotion it gets. So if you dont talk to him soon then eventualy he will have convinced himself that you have done something with another man and there will be no hope for the relationship. Being annoying should be the least of your worries when he might dump you for something as harmless as dancing with another guy. It not your fault he couldnt hold back his erection. Hope he realizes the truth before its too late.
~SFL
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): Well you actually did a really good thing! Telling him that that did happened should tell him that he can completely trust you, because most girlfriends wouldn't even tell their boyfriend! I think you actually did the right thing!
But first of all if you really loved your boyfriend and you are really committed to him, you wouldn't of danced with a guy in that way at all! So committ and stop dancing with guys, dance with him! and when he's sweet and makes you feel special you need to do the same thing!
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