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writes:My girlfriend and I broke up about 2 weeks ago. At the time, I was really confused about what had happened between us. Last week, I confronted her about the break up. She said that she was still in love with me... but problems had come up. To keep up with her responsibilities to school and to her family, she had decided to give me up even though she knew she would regret it. She believed I would try to move on after learning all this... but I assured her that I would wait for her.Now I'm still waiting, but I really don't know how to communicate with her. This past week, I've sent her messages telling her how my day was, and hoping she was feeling better. Sometimes I would talk about my feelings... but she never addressed them in her replies.How should I communicate with her. Should I just not talk about feelings anymore?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 November 2011):
 I agree do not WAIT for her.
Stop texting her
and be grateful she TOLD you what was going on and ended it like an adult instead of just letting it fade away and not give you closure.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (29 November 2011):
 You should stop communicating with her all together! Look, regardless of her reasons, she simply doesnt want a relationship right now and you are not important enough to her to make her want to try and keep this relationship going. Yes it is harsh - but generally if you really love someone then nothing will get in the way of that. If she needs more time to study, then she could have just asked for more time each week where she doesnt see you so she can study.
The reality is that you are just not a priority in her life anymore and she doesnt want a relationship. So you have to honour this and move on, stop waiting around in the hope that she will come back.
Cut off contact, dont try and be friends because that never works for anyone. Let her get on with your life, you get on with yours - and if it really was meant to be then she will come back to you one day, but dont hold out any hope otherwise you will be hanging on forever.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (29 November 2011):
 Why don't you call her or talk to her face to face about your feelings? Is she WANTING you to WAIT for her? It doesn't sound like it to me. She has too much on her plate right now and can't handle a relationship with you. Your ex isn't asking you to wait for, it's an unreasonable request and she wants you to move on with your life. So it's best if you honor this break-up and get on with your life.
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