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writes:My ex and I were taking a break and I found out he was talking to this new girl who lived in another state that he had never met, and I got so jealous. They skyped all night and were playing truth or dare...and you can guess what happens when a boy and girl play truth or dare over skype. The girl isnt the kind of girl he goes for, but I still was so hurt. He had stopped talking to me and spent most of his time, if not all talking to her. We also stopped seeing eachother in person. I haven't seen him since August. Except when I ran into him at the train station two weeks ago.At the train station, I introduced him to my mother and we started texting again. The first thing he said was "you look pretty today", but other than that I don't think there was any flirting. Then a few days later, the new girl made a facebook status about how late they stayed up and how tired she was because HE wanted her to stay up ALL night with her. He used to do that with me. So I texted him and said I know about his relationship with her, and if she's what he wants, he can have her. He never texted back. He stopped getting on Skype, he deactivated his facebook. I miss him so much now, it's driving me nuts. We never really were able to have a stable relationship because he said I was a distraction from skateboarding (he's really serious about it). I keep wondering if one day in the future we might get back together. He used to tell me he loved me all the time. Then, a few months ago (like 2) he stopped saying it because he said he "didn't want to speak out of turn", whatever that means. Then a month after that he said he was easy to replace and he'll forget about me. What is going on with him? I just want him back in my life. We were so close. Now we're strangers.He never was one to show emotion. He once said just cause he misses me doesn't mean he is going to say it. He also said he loved me but didn't know in what way yet, but he wouldn't want to live without me. That was in August. What happened between then and now?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 November 2011):
 I'm so sorry but the truth is, there is no way to get him back... you have to move on....
What you want at one point in your life may change... be thankful you learned it early on in this relationship...
not words you want to hear I know but the truth is sweetie, he's DONE with you.... he's moved on...
if the girl he is playing with on skype (which BTW why are you even friends with her on facebook if it makes you nuts un-friend and even block her) is the one that holds his interest now...
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (29 November 2011):
I have no idea what problems the two of you had because you did not mention those. It is hard to think that it is only because of skateboarding.
Reality is that he is your ex. The relationship is over. It is time to move on and accept what has happened. He may be with someone new but in a way it is not really your business. He does not lead you on or give you false hope so I think what he is doing is right. He is also not being disrespectful to you as the 2 of you have indeed had conversations. I think you need to get your mind off this guy...he is not "the one" and the more you recycle these memories you will only frustrate yourself. I don't see the sense in longing for someone who obviously does not want to be with you.
Feelings do change especially when people are not together or not in contact.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (29 November 2011):
 Well between August and now he met another girl and also decided that skateboarding was more important than having a girlfriend. So he broke up with you because he was enjoying messing around with someone else and didnt want a serious relationship anymore.
You cant get him back I'm afraid, he has ended the relationship so you need to accept it is over and move on. I know break ups are tough and they really hurt, and it will hurt for a while, but in time you will get over him and move on.
It is natural to miss someone for a while, especially if you were close, and it is natural to want him back - but these feelings will fade in time.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, synchrohobbit +, writes (29 November 2011):
 Unfortunately, four months is definitely not just a break for a high school relationship. He is being incredibly passive aggressive by cutting contact, giving you some occasional words to hang off of, and openly being in some emotional relationship with another girl. Also, unless he is training for the X-Games, your existence in his life could not be a real "distraction." There is always a possibility that in a few months or even after high school you two will reunite on more even and mature ground, but my suggestion is to forge ahead (just like he is doing). It is perfectly okay to feel like dating other guys will exact some revenge, because eventually it won't feel that way anymore.
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