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writes:ok this might be long but i need help. i want to trust my girlfriend again she cheated on me before but only a kiss with the same guy twice. this was about 3 months ago but i just cant trust her and when she hangs with guys i get upset and like start getting thought bout what she is doing. she tells me nothing is going on and that she loves me so much and she regrets cheating on me. we have been dating awhile and have gotten very serious. i need to trust her again. i also have this thing right now where i think she might be cheating on me because she hangs with this one guy she met at a christmass party and she says he friends invite him over so shes not gonna just say no. i send her sweet txts at night and in the morning i get "aww baby that means so much to me i wanna be with you forever i love you baby" but she doesnt say anything else and i ripp my heart open telling her these things. i mean this could all just be in my head because of me not trusting her but thats why im here asking for help and you point of veiws so please help cuz i love this girl to death and i want to get this all to work.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (2 January 2010):
It seems like you've begun to think that you're the problem, but really, she's the problem. You're really not going to be able to trust her ever, and I agree, she can say no.
When I have a boyfriend, out of respect I don't hang out with other guys if I can help it--even if it is completely platonic (some women don't do this but not everyone is the same) and if I ever did cheat on a boyfriend I'm pretty sure that if I wanted to regain his trust back, I'd probably be spending my time trying to prove to him that it won't happen again rather than hanging out with a new guy that would probably end up making my boyfriend extremely uncomfortable.
Look at it this way, if she really loved you and respected you--she wouldn't hang out with other guys frequently that made you uncomfortable. I think you need to dump her fast before she hurts you again because it sounds like she probably will. And with all the nice things you do for her, there's a lot of girls that would love that and appreciate that. Give what you have to offer to someone who deserves it, not some tramp that makes you feel like crap.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 January 2010):
He invites her over to his his house, and she can't just say no? Yes she can say no, she's choosing not to. There's no problem with women having male friends, but when they're acting this way, you know it's time to move on. She's done it twice with another guy already. If she's got attached to this other guy then it's only a matter of time. I think you can do better to be honest.
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