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writes:I discovered a diary recently from my high school days . Reading through it I became overcome with nostalgia. I had described my first crush in detail as teenagers do, and of course, with social media these days I looked him up online. I found that he lives near me now and the urge to contact him is driving me nuts. I would love to see him again.This was not even a boyfriend, we did get together once but it was more just a crush and the diary has caused me to relive it, now I feel like it just happened yesterday!What do I do? Leave it alone and hope it passes or drop him a line? Chances are he will either think I am nuts or not recognise me at all. It's been 20 years!Any advice appreciated
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2014): I just recently got in touch with an old flame of mine. He was thrilled to hear from me and more importantly he remembered me, LOL. He's happily married with two kids and fat and bald, but at least I know that and there are no unanswered 'what ifs' in my mind. I wouldn't be worried about him thinking you nuts, not with so many people contacting people via FB these days. I'd contact him, at least you'll know then and can stop wondering!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2014): Thanks TasteofIndia,
He is not on facebook but I did find him on another site. I am not married, he may well be.
I don't normally contact people from my past so that is why I am asking whether I should, I guess the worst that could happen is that he doesn't respond so maybe I will go ahead and contact him.
Thanks everyone!
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (1 March 2014):
 Why not friend him on Facebook? You didn't mention if you're single... or if he's single. If you're both married, I don't know that getting together would be a good idea right now, while you're all nostalgic, hot and bothered. But, if you're both single then this could be the start of a whole new diary entry, if you catch my drift!
Go for it. Press that "Friend" button!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2014): Thank you PeanutButter, I feel like that might happen for me, i will get it out of my system. all I am worried about is looking completely crazy, should I tell hi why I thought of him?
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (28 February 2014):
 These days it is easy to get in contact with people on facebook - you can find him, send a message saying hey and what not and you'll see what he's like now and if anything it will get the need out of your system.
He is probably a wildly different person now and so it can either be a good thing or a let down but you'll never know if you don't look!
I tracked down an old crush before who I had thought about for years and tracking them down was all I needed to get over it! They were totally different and not what I had remembered at all (of course) and I was able to move on, it was cathartic!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2014): Thanks for your answer.
This is a guy though, and we were together once, kissing as kids do, no sex. But we were not friends.
If he were single I might be interested so I can't say I wouldn't want to rekindle anything.
He might think its strange?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 February 2014):
 I just recently got back in touch with a friend (same sex) that I had not seen in nearly 20 years... isn't social media grand...
you aren't looking to rekindle anything just touch base.
I think you should go for it.
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