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writes:Having sex with my sex buddy for a year. both have us have recently come out of long term relationships. I am not ready to have a full on new relationship. But would like to know if we do have a future. He dosent give much away and says he likes me a lot but does not love me. Silly me told him that I loved him and I do. Really thinking of putting an end to it. going through a miscarriage right now and I have only spoken to him on the phone. He theh said today he will always be friend with his ex (they have kids) but says he does not trust her. why would you want to be fiends with someone you dont trust.but likes me a lot but does not want to commit to anything-wont even go for a meal.
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reader, Wobbles  +, writes (2 March 2010):
At least he's honest with you. I do not see any other choice but to take him at his word. He told you he does not love you and he will not even go for a meal with you. I would end it before you get hurt.
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reader, Tine  +, writes (2 March 2010):
 Then chances are honey if he does not even want to go for a meal with you, as friends, then i think the only future you have with him is a future where you have meaningless sex.
If you are thinking of ending it then ask him first, do you ever see us having a future?? If he is unable to answer you then explain to him that you have already fallen in love with him and if you continue the way you both are then you will end up getting hurt because at the end of the day you will always end up wanting more from him than he is willing to give you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2010): He probably feels trapped by her, in that he wants to be there for his kids, but feels he has to be good friends with her to make his time with his kids work. He must really love his children, and he knows that in order to give them everything as a father, even though he's not in love with their mother anymore, he must have continuing, healthy communication with her. If he doesn't treat her like a friend, he might not ever get proper time or pull with his children.
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reader, nessabarela505  +, writes (2 March 2010):
Why would you let yourself get down like that? He obviously only wanted sex that why you guys were sex buddies in the first place don't be someones cuddy buddy if you have feelings for that person. Take some time alone a miscarrage can be really hard to go through alone it's very depressing I should know but sometimes it's better to deal stuff like that with girlfriends ice cream tissues here and there.
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