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writes: I just had unprotected sex with my boyfriend of a year and 2 months. We don't use condoms, but we do use birth control pills...Well, I suppose that the correct wording would be that I use birth control pills for our pregnancy-free benefit.So, I had missed a few pills a few days ago. I forgot to pack them on a girls-night-out...but no big deal, just wait until after my next period and I get back on track...But last night I was with my boyfriend and one thing lead to another. Wow, cliche!But the weird thing is, I feel more excited than anything else! I really want to get pregnant, and my boyfriend and I are moving in together for college next year...But seriously, I know that college dreams would be put on a back-burner, and our relationship would go through major trauma.Gosh. Why would I get excited about this? I feel so silly. What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): No, I do not think it odd that you are excited you may be pregnant! I would be, then or now! It sounds like you are discussing this with your BF, so that is good, keep it up. Just that you are young, although you may not think so and there is nothing wrong with wanting or being excited about having a baby, it's great that you want that, just, there are a lot of considerations and babies take up a ton of time and money and if you do college first, you may have more of both at the end to invest in your child. It is a lot harder to focus on your studies for both you and your BF if you are dealing with a crying or sick or teething child, wondering where to get the money for the diapers- check out how much those cost- I have married friends with jobs that complain about the diapers, then you will need a babysitter if you want to go out, how do you manage classes if you both have them at the same time etc. So, no judgement meant, it is your life, just there is a lot to consider.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 There’s always a mad rush to something, somewhere —
but victory does not always belong to those who finish first.
Sometimes, there is no race to be won,
only a price to be paid for some of life’s more hasty decisions.
Don’t live life recklessly without thought and feeling for
your family.
Be true to yourself.
Don’t commit when you’re not ready.
Pursue your passions.
Live your dreams.
Don’t lose faith in God.
Don’t grow old.
Just grow up.
By M. T. L., 1999
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 Hi,
I doubt your boyfriend would be quite so excited about the prospect of missing out on his college education so he can support his young girlfriend and her baby. You are right in that , there will be "major trauma".
He would also assume that you did this deliberately so your relationship will be under threat as well.
Hard to get excited now isnt it. Chances are you wont be pregnant , so why dont you take back those plans of going to college with your boyfriend and go with them, the life of a single mum struggling to get by surely can only keep you excited for so long.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe gave his virginity to me, but I got checked up.
I didn't trick him, he knew I forgot to take my pills -_- You make me unhappy when you don't know the facts and assume that I would trick my boyfriend.
I was just wondering whether it's odd to be excited about this....this thought that I might, possibly be pregnant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): Kids are great, but given that you both seem to have college goals, why not do that first? Then as one of the previous responders suggested, you may have more time etc to focus on the child. Also, if you are missing pills, you should be letting your boyfriend know, so he can make an informed choice about what he is doing!
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reader, Andrew83  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 I agree with anon and also, have you ever put thought in to whether it's wise to have unprotected sex with STD's around..
Did you both lose it with each other or with someone else? if with someone else did you both get a check up done to make sure you didnt have an STD? I know its silly to be askin but all it takes is once and thats it.
My advice is to go and do your college and after, well who knows.. Havin a baby will very much change both your lifes and will need money on top to buy things for the baby which means you both need to be workin..
It's really up to you, we can only give advice, you choose whether to follow it or not.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008):
Purposely decieving someone in order to get pregant with their child should be a prosecutable offense.
If you got aroused at the idea of forcibly raping a stranger, would that make it okay to go through with that fun little fantasy too?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): The thought of being pregnant scares a lot of people, especially when it's unplanned, but it can also excite some. The thing is, you probably aren't considering expenses, school, your career, or how hard it would be to go anywhere in life with a child too early. I had my son at 17. He's four now. I am just starting school, but between trying to go to school, work to support us both, and being there for him, my life is a mess. His father is gone because the undue stress was too much strain on the relationship. If you really love your boyfriend, don't do this to him and don't do it to yourself, and for the love of GOD don't do it to an innocent child. Brink a baby into a stable home when you're both ready.
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